Post # 1
My friend of 2 years is getting married. Her wedding is in another state, and my husband and I are both going. This cost is quite a bit of money; flight, rental car, hotel at wedding venue etc.
Neither one of us are in the wedding, but were both invited to bachelorette/bachelor parties. Both were in cities other than where we live.
Neitger one of us are going to said parties, but I am feeling like a bad friend. Part of the decision is financial, the other personal. Out of the friends attending from where I live (all friends of mine) I am the only married one. All bridesmaids are married, but I have never met any of them. I feel between those I know, this will turn into a singles party.
What does everyone think? I feel like I am passed the partying phase in my life, but feel guilty for not going.
Post # 3
@swimchick: Don’t feel guilty whatsoever. I don’t think it should be expected of you to come but hopefully it’s more along the lines of, “you’re a great friend and want you to know the invite is there if you can make it” kind of thing.
Wish them a great time and say you wish you could attend.
Post # 4
@swimchick: Hey, if you cant go….ya cant go! Dont feel bad. If you really really feel like an awful person send a card that says you would love to go but cannot…maybe put a $20 in it and say its for a few drinks on you.
Post # 5
@swimchick: It is an invitation, not a summons. If you cannot go for whatever reason you like, you can decline. Don’t feel badly.
Post # 6
Don’t feel guilty about not going! If you don’t want to/can’t afford it just don’t. If you’re still feeling guilty, contact the Maid/Matron of Honor and ask her if you can contribute anything, like buying her sash or an embarasing tiara or something. Send it with a little note telling her to have fun and that you wish her all the best. Cheap, thoughtful, and she’ll know you care even if you can’t be there.