Bachelorette parties

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Are you the bride?  

If someone suggested to me that they wanted me to pay $1200 for a bachelorette party, I would have keeled over.  That is a ridiculous amount to spend.  

Post # 4
395 posts
Helper bee

In the past I’ve spent around $100 as a guest. I’ve never had to travel outside of my city to attend.

Post # 5
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018


I’m all about a weekend bachelorette party, I’ve planned two and mine was the same way but a Mexican vacation with a cost of $1200 each seems really extreme… I would ask the guests what dates they’re available and what their budget is (one on one)

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Post # 8
47429 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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skatergirl :  I will preface my remarks by saying I decline all invitations to out of town or destination bachelorettes. Chances are, if you are family or a close friend I am already spending a small fortune to attend your wedding. Bachelorettes used to be dinner and drinks, now it’s a competition to see who can outdo the next person.

Where I live, bachelorettes are planned in the bride’s honor by someone else. Although they may consult the bride re what she would like to do, her fantasy bachelorette takes second place to the guests’ budgets.


Post # 9
7528 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Neither one of these options seems reasonable. A night of club hopping is more appropriate. if the ladies who live out of town don’t make it, have a good time with the locals. Your bachelorette party doesn’t need to be as big a deal as a Mexico vacation or a 5-hour drive.

Post # 10
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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skatergirl : Girl my rent is $1,000. If my friend asked me to drop four figures on a bachelorette party, I would hate her. Like it would legitimately hurt our friendship. Just to be brutally honest. I would rather be stuck in the woods than drop a paycheck.

I am also adding this for your PERSONAL SAFETY:

The Department of State is asking Americans to NOT go to certain parts of Mexico. I booked a flight to visit family and got a free resort stay in Mexico, and Boyfriend or Best Friend and I decided to forgo the free week.

We don’t currently have the best relationship with Mexico and a group of American women down south for a Bachelorette party is a target. It’s actually a liability for you and your girls.

I suggest something safer and cheaper.

Post # 11
1546 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

omg is this a troll? $1200?

I would rather die than ask that of anyone. End of friendship. Bye Felicia.

My BMs have organised a wine tour and a house party. Like $80 each including everything.

Reassess your priorities girl omg.

Post # 13
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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skatergirl :  Then I say ask each woman her budget and find a happy medium. But my point on Mexico stands.

Post # 15
1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Depends on the norm of your circle. In my circles we don’t fly just drive. Which means ours average 500 or less per person. So 1200 would be a lot. 

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