(Closed) Bachelorette Parties Pre/Post Babies

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

@jpr:  I wouldn’t roll with it. I would hope that the party is organised wih my preferences in mind (ie. longer than 2 hours). Should there be ladies who need to leave at a certain point then so be it. I would find it hurtful, but at least i wouldn’t be suprised on the night.

Post # 4
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State


             I don’t have children myself let me make that perfectly clear (for those who might read what I write) BUT people who have children are old enough to make the call on how long they want to stay out. I don’t think that should be left up to whomever is planning it to base it around their children. There are babysitters (which yes can get expensive if its not a spouse/partner watching the kid(s)) but maybe the ones who are in your wedding party just need a reminder that all these events were done for them for their wedding and they didn’t have their kids. It would only be fair they do the same for you. I have girls in my wedding party who have children and they are making the arrangements for my childless wedding and other wedding events that are going on. They knew going into the wedding planning and they could have said no to being in the wedding party. One of my maid of honours has 3 children, she loves them but shes actually happy about getting some time away from her children as every parent needs a night out once and a while. I love my neices to pieces but at the same time, sometimes grown up time is much needed. I can understand the ones with newborns who might not be able to stay as long away from the baby (depending on the type of feeding) but I think the ones with older children should be able to stay out longer in my opinion. I know some people aren’t gonna like my answer because I’m not a mother, but sometimes I think moms forget what its like to not have children (I’m just basing this on some of the experiences I’ve had lately with those whom have children) 

Post # 5
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jpr:  I completely understand your position. I’m one of the last from my hometown to marry/have kids (I am 27) and none of my NYC friends are married/have kids. My bachelorette is in April and I expect the moms to bail. It’s ok with me, but my girls are also being nice about it. 

From my own experience, I think you should brush it off and try to not let it hurt your feelings. It’s probably, sadly not really about you, but people have short memories and get a little selfish. I think and your MOHs should plan as normal, and the guests can decide how much they can attend. They will be the ones missing out. If the girls ask if you care though, I think you should say yes, you would prefer to spend as much time as possible with the ladies you love!

Post # 7
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have two kids and my friends all have kids except my Maid/Matron of Honor. All of them fully plan on going on a girls night out for my Bachelorette party with no time limitations. We don’t go out often, so we will enjoy it. I will say, though, I have some friends who’s children’s fathers aren’t in the picture so it is harder for them to find an over night sitter.


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