(Closed) Bachelorette Party?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Since your sister is not a bachelorette, any party you throw for her is NOT a bachelorette party, in my opinion.  Plus, the whole concept behing the bachelorette party was to be the last woo-rah as a single woman, so it just won’t work in this case.

However, I still think it would be great for you to get some girls together for dinner or something before the wedding.  Partying with the girls contributes to the atmosphere surrounding the wedding and helps the bride to unwind from the stresses of planning the wedding.  You wouldn’t have to splurge on anything fancy at all – just dinner or a night on the town.  All the girls attending would split the bill so the bride doesn’t have to pay, but it certainly doesn’t have to break the bank.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

She didn’t get to have a bachelorette party, so just slap a smile on your face and pretend. Have a girls night on the cruise ship. There will be plenty to do and it won’t cost any more money. Also, you may want to bring up your monetary concerns with her. It’s possible that she hasn’t noticed how much this is costing everyone.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just do the girls night on the ship the night before.  If she ever brings it up, just be honest and tell her that it was $ issue.  If shes a true friend she will understand.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just want to add one thing…could her Husband help contribute to a ‘bachelorette party”? Could you talk to him and explain to him that you want her to have one but cannot afford it?

In my case, all of my bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) are either in grad school or just graduated and can’t find full time jobs.  My Fiance is going to help contribute to my Bachelorette Party next June (his decision to do this).

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just plan a fun night for the girls while on the ship with no gifts.  Anyone doing a destination wedding wont expect a lot of gifts anyway.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I can completely understand that you don’t feel comfortable spending any more money as you’ve already gone to a lot of effort for this friend.  I certaibnly wouldn’t be willing to then put in more for a bachelorette party as well! 

I would be quite direct but polite to her mother that you and the other girls don’t feel comfortable spending more at this time although acknowledge it was a nice idea. 

Perhaps if you really feel like doing something with all the girls, I’d suggest a breakfast/brunch together the day before where the price is already included.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am already married, we had our wedding in a COURT House and now I am having the Big HooRah!I am doing a bachelorette weekend in Vegas, but it wasn’t planned by me and I never suggested it. I am happy though, that I will get to have a fun girls weekend before the big day. So… Give her a Bachelorette party,  it doesn’t have to be what the mom suggested, the greenback idea, do a lingerie party or do something on the cruise like a “Wigging out Party” and Kareokee, everyone dons a wig! Its a blast! Maybe talk to her mother about the expenses that you have all already spent on the wedding, if she doesn’t understand then tell her to plan the party and foot the bill simple as that.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sorry, I have no idea why I thought she was your sister.  Undecided

Anyway I agree she deserves a big bash and kudos to you for wanting to throw her something.  Just please stay away from some of the “stereotypical” things they do at bacchelorette parties, if you know what I mean.  That’s why I suggest not calling it a bacchelorette party too in case anyone gets the wrong idea!

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