Post # 1
I really need your help!! I am the Maid/Matron of Honor trying to plan a Bachelorette party for my sister’s wedding in Sept. We have decided to have it on July 23rd 2011. We are starting the festivities at a Winery in Boston for a semi private wine tasting and party. This cost is taken care of by the MOB. I have decided to get a limo because we are also going to dinner in Boston and going out for drinks/dancing at a club until about 1am. The limo is a safe option but the cheapest I could find for the amount of people is around 750 dollars. My question is ..do the guests that are not part of the bridal party contribute as well ? I am asking about 50 dollars a piece. I have also booked a hotel for the night because of getting out so late and drinking. We are trying to estimate how many people are going to take in the hotel and it is becoming so difficult without reponses. Some want to come to the dinner but not dancing…some want to stay at the hotel…some want to go home..The dinner we were just going to let everyone order whatever they wanted as well as the club and we would split the total cost including my sister’s meal and drinks between all of the guests. The number of guests is about 15. Is this a proper way to do it?
And in the invite should I mention about how much things would cost? What is the polite way of asking for the contributions of the evening?
Post # 3
Every bachelorette party I have been too, it is expected to split the cost (if a hotel/dinner/ect) is involved. However, I would be a little concerned about the splitting the cost of drinks/dinner equally among all guest. I know I don’t drink as much as some of my friends and stick to cheaper things on the menu, not exactly fair to be expected to pay for the girl who drinks a lot/eats a steak for dinner. Maybe in the wording on the invite, mention that drinks/drinks are not covered and $$ is expected if styaing in the hotel/use the limo and to RSVP if staying? Good Luck, I jsut threw a bachelorette party for my Maid/Matron of Honor with a limo bus, and it is stressful, I feel your pain!
Post # 4
At every bachelorette I’ve been to, the bridesmaids pay for themselves and the bride; everyone else pays their own way. Guests might buy the bride a drink or something, but are not responsible for her share of the limo, hotel, or whatever. I’ve never heard of a completely hosted bachelorette party, so I’m sure the guests expect to pay for their own expenses. If they are expected to pay for the bride, however, that needs to be communicated as it is not the norm.
Also, it needs to be communicated in advance how the dinner bill will be handled – will you do an even split or will people pay only for what they ordered? It sucks for vegetarians/light eaters/non-drinkers to have to subsidize the people who order everything on the menu.
Post # 5
@Cornhusker: Okay, sorry I might have worded that wrong. I was thinking for the dinner everyone just orders what they want and they pay for whatever they ordered. I just meant do we split up the cost of my sisters meal and drinks amongst everyone or do my Mom and I pay for her? Sorry never done this before!!
Post # 6
@sailor: They are responsible to contribute for themselves for the limo/ hotel though right? I would just have them order what they want and pay for only what they ordered at the dinner. The limo would be about 50 dollars split amongst 15 people and the hotel would be about 50 dollars as well if they choose to want to stay. Is this too much? I feel like people are going to back out if they read the invitation.
How do I word that it that you have to pay for yourself on the limo/ hotel/ and dinner without sounding rude?
Post # 7
You send out an e-vite (or whatever) and include an itinerary with approximate costs. I.e.:
7-8 PM Wine Tasting at Winery (hosted by MOB)
8-10 PM dinner at Restaurant (link to menu or include price range of entrees)
10-PM – 1 AM Dancing at Club
1 AM Slumber party at Hotel ($x per night; rooms sleep x number of people; cost to be split evenly)
Transportation between events will be by limo at a total cost of $750, cost to be split evenly.
If you want in on transportation or hotel, RSVP by x date.
As you have seen, there will be people who want to go to some of the events but skip others, and you’ll just have to roll with it. $50 for limo, $50 for hotel, plus dinner and drinks is an expensive night out.
There really is no way to provide exact cost info up front (because you don’t know how many people will be participating). All you can do is give a range. Really, people won’t think you’re rude. They expect to pay for themselves.
Post # 8
Thanks so much. That sounds great they way you have it worded there. Yeah it is definitely an expensive night out . And I love the mention of listing the menu for people to take a look at ahead of time. Great idea.
Post # 9
the only problem is if funds are tight and people dont want to spend on limo and some rsvp no; you may need a contingency plan
I know when I invite some friends to fancy nights out, some will rsvp no because its too expensive