Post # 1
Question for you girls…
My friend is getting married @ the end of July. It will be in NY — 2 girls in the bridal party live in NY, the other 2 of us live in 2 different states (I’m within driving distance, other girls is a plane ride away). We are attempting to plan her bridal shower for May. Her sister wants to also have the Bachelorette Party the night of her shower — 2 months before the wedding. I think its way too far in advance – I figured that the Bachelorette Party would be a couple of weeks to a few days before the wedding.
I just don’t want my friend to fell like she is getting shafted out if a Bachelorette Party just to “save time” and kill 2 birds w/ one stone to make it convienent for everyone else.
Should I mention something to her? We are pretty close and can talk about things openly w/ each other. I also don’t want to step on her sister’s toes….
Post # 3
I dont really think there is anything wrong with it. I think it would be kinda fun to have a girls day and night! I, personally, wouldnt mind and I would want to make things easier on my friends instead of having to spend more money on coming back for another party
Post # 4
Most of my friends had their bachelorette parties anywhere from a month to several months before their wedding, so I guess I don’t see what the big deal is.. I think it’s actually thoughtful of her to have it the same night so that people don’t have to come in from out of state twice.
Post # 5
Mine is a whole 6 weeks before our wedding, and I don’t mind at all. In fact, it will be kind of nice to have the whole week before to plan/organize/relax (hah) etc.
Post # 6
I don’t see it as a problem at all. I’m sure she’d be happy just to get one. (And to have it when all her girls can make it.)
Post # 7
Well, I’d tread lightly here. Even though you have good intentions, it can easily appear that you are stepping on her sisters toes. I’d get some other perspectives from people that know the bride. See if anyone else thinks its not good timing. If I were her, I wouldn’t want the bachelorette party so far from the wedding, but that’s just me. Maybe, if they’re open to it, you and the girls can come into town for the wedding a couple days in advance and have it then?
Post # 8
I think it’s a good idea. My girls have talked about doing something similar since most of them are from out of town and would be here for bridal shower anyways. I kinda like the idea, so I can enjoy my time with the girls rather than worrying what else I could be getting done for the wedding.
Post # 9
I dont think its weird to have the bachelorette party 2 months before…in fact I just looked on the real simple checklist and it says 2 months before – enjoy a bachelorette party….so I think its fine!!
Post # 10
It isn’t ideal, but neither is having the BM’s fly in 2 seperate times. I would suggest talking to the bride and see what her feelings are. It sounds like there are probably two options, 1) have the shower/bachellorette party combo and all BM’s can be there or 2) push it closer to the wedding on a seperate date but there is a chance less people will be able to attend.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
mine is just about two months before the wedding, and I think if it works out for everyone to be there, it would be just fine!
Post # 12
I am having my bachelorette party 2 months in advance, so is my fiance– well his is closer to 3 months away. We both have to fly to get to the locations of our parties, and to be able to get the time off work for both the parties and the wedding to do it a few months early just worked better for us.
Post # 13
I think it is a great idea to have it in advance and on the same day as the shower but everyone’s different.
Ask the other girls what they think and the bride if she knows about it to see how she feels – if she doesn’t care … let it go!
Post # 14
I don’t think there is anything wrong with having it a few months early. The last bachelorette party I attended was in June for a Bride who got married in August. June was the only time the Bride and all 5 BMs and all her other friends could find the time to get together to party the night away. Mine will probably be a few days before the wedding, but then one of my BMs lives on the other side of the US and has NO vacation time or money to fly in more then 3 days before the wedding and I really want her there with me while we party hardy.
Post # 15
I agree with the other posters here – it seems like a good idea to me, actually. It would be convenient for most people to have it all in one weekend, as opposed to setting aside 2 separate weekends for the festivities.
I’m sure the bride will be extremely busy during the month leading up to the wedding. So this might be the most convenient for her, as well.
Post # 16
Two of my BMs live on the other side of country, and having them there for my shower and my bachelorette would be awesome. If having it the same weekend would make it happen, I would be thrilled, even if it were months out.