Post # 1
So my bachelorette party is this weekend and not looking forward to it… I feel like no one cared about what I wanted and my Maid/Matron of Honor decided what she wanted was more important. Shouldn’t I have been able to say what I wanted and didn’t want? or is it all supposed to be out of my hands?
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you aren’t looking forward to it! What are your plans? What did you want your plans to be?
Post # 4
Try to go into it with an open mind… maybe they have planned something they thought you would really like? Go with the intention of having fun with your closest friends.
If you think there is enough time, you can talk to your Maid/Matron of Honor and tell her what things you consider to be the most important to you for your bachelorette party and ask if there is a way you can help to make sure they are incorporated.
Post # 5
@crystalrae: Well I had tried to speak up but then got called controlling etc. so I just stepped back and was like okay I’ll try and go with the flow… but now that its coming up I’ll try and do what you said and just have an open mind. 🙂
Post # 6
@Gemstone: Well I wanted to go to Las Vegas but the people I had invited all ended up getting into arguements over email and I ended up having to get involved and just canceled everything… The fight was mainly between my Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my other BM’s. It was really uncomfortable and I was put in a really odd position… We are now going to a winery, but we are leaving at 5am and when I voiced my concern over waking up so early you would have thought I was proposing something horrible… My moh got really upset that I was trying to change the plans and so again I just backed off. People are already saying that they plan to take naps and stuff after the wine tour and I am like hummm I was hoping for a more fun outgoing time lol
I am sure it will turn out great I guess I am just nervous.
Post # 7
@selina b: I am in exactly the same boat! My bridesmaids have been absolutely ridiculous about everything – including dividing among themselves and causing WAY more drama and stress than I need to be dealing with!
My bachelorette party was planned without my opinion other than an occassionally text about colors or meaningless other stuff. I got the invitation and it says we are to meet at my house, which I was not asked about ahead of time (I am completely fine with that part) but later that night the bridesmaid who sent out the invitations asked if she could crash at my house after and she thought it would be fun to turn it into a slumber party – again without my opinion – meaning that my fiancee would be kicked out of his house without either of our consent. I told her today that I thought about it and dont really want to have the party at my house and didnt feel it was approaite for me to “host” it and have to clean before and after. Instead I thought it would be fun if the bachelorette and bachelor parties join together for the end of the evening at a bar we often go to and I was told that I was ridiculous and should have spoke up before the invites were sent out and then told that I could plan my own party and let her know how that turns out! I found out that the plan was for us to go out while one of them comes to my house and decorates while we are out (another thing for me to clean up – because I highly doubt any will be helping me with anything the next day – especially because not one of them have offered to help me with anything at all). I honestly dont think I am in the wrong here but apparently I am at a total loss… Dont know what to do… Is it me or was it rude of them to plan the party to end here without asking my opinion or if I was even ok with having 15+ drunk girls in my house?!?!
Post # 8
@mnj102712: I totally understand what your saying… I do think they should have asked you before they made plans in your house… What I don’t get is they don’t want us to be a part of the planning at all…. but then they are involving you (by using your house) but then when you have an opinion about it (which you should get to have an opinion now since they wanted to use your house) “your crazy and you can go ahead and plan it all yourself!” so weird…Also my Maid/Matron of Honor at one point also told me I could plan it all myself…
The same thing kinda happened with me… my moh doesnt have credit cards and she asked to use mine to put the deposits for the hotel rooms in Las Vegas… so boom I am involved… $600 was charged to my credit card and I needed to know when I was going to get the money because I was being charged interest… but the moment I spoke up… I am crazy and I am a control freak etc…
Someone did give me some good advice though.. they said that my Maid/Matron of Honor was probably stressing becasue all my friends and Bridesmaid or Best Man have kinda strong personalities and are a lot to deal with so I should just remind her that I appreciate everything she’s doing etc.
I did have my bachelorette party and it was so so so so so so so much fun and am so glad with the plans my Maid/Matron of Honor had put together. I hope yours ends up just as good as mine.
Post # 9
I think you should get a say. My girls are totally asking me what I want.