- 4 years ago
I need some advice from anyone. My fiance and I are to be wed in 3 weeks. This past weekend was her bachelorette party. We have both been married before, and we were both cheated on in our previous marriages. We have had many conversations about what we felt was appropriate behavior in a committed relationship.
At her bachelorette party, a group of her friends went to dinner and out to a bar. After the bar, most of the group went home, except for my fiance and two of her friends that are married. While they were at the bar, one of her married friends met two guys, and they girls proceeded to hangout with them for the night. After the bar, and after the other girls went home, they went to a club to go dancing, once that closed, my finace, her two married friends, and the two guys they met proceeded back to the guy’s house. My fiance didn’t get home until the 5:30 in the morning.
I expressed a lot of concern about this decision because of their safety, and also questioned why would two married women, and one engaged woman go back to the home of two guys that they just met at the bar that night. Oh, one of the married girls kissed one of the guys, and was pursuing him. My fiance said she didn’t want to be there, but both girls did not do anything to stop their married friend from pursing this guy.
This entire situation has sent me into a tailspin, because we have had some many conversations about what we expect from each other. Also, she has expressed to me so much how much she hates people seeing cheating, and would never put herself in a situation that would be perceived as cheating. I know she didn’t cheat on me, but why didn’t she stop her married friend from pursing this guy, and why didn’t she say no I don’t or we shouldn’t go to these guy’s house.
To me it seems very inappropriate, especially after all of the conversations we had regarding what is acceptable and what is not. Some of the excuses she has given me was: A lot of couples would be ok with this. I’ve never been in this situation before, and I didn’t know what to do.
With the wedding only in a few weeks, I feel like this is a huge issue to tackle. A lot of trust has been lost.
Any advice, or gut reactions from anyone would be appreciated.
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