(Closed) bachelorette party…

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

A majority of my bridesmaids lived out of state (including myself), so they just had my bachelorette party 2 nights before the wedding! 

I think you should find out from your ladies what works best for them, and go with the majority!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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afgirl1111:  I have the same issue – 2 of my 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man are out of state, as are both of my sisters, and the majority of my friends.  So we’re having my bachelorette on the Thursday before the wedding (so 2 days before the wedding).   That is the only way that a majority of the people that I want to be there can make it, or at least can make it easily and cheaply.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I have the same issue. Instead of trying to navigate the out of state people, I’m just not having one. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Either right before the wedding, not at all, or don’t have any expectation that they will come. You can party with your local friends.

 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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julies1949:  I came on here to say the exact same thing – right before or not at all.  

And, OP, I chose not at all for mine, so I’m not saying it as someone who never had to think about it.  There is no way it’s fair to expect anyone to buy two plane tickets for wedding related events.  And take off work, buy meals, buy your drinks (because that’s just how those things go), etc…

Post # 7
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Newbee

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afgirl1111:  Having it the weekend before the wedding would mean your BMs would have to stay in the city for a whole week!

That means they have to book that time off of work, find accommodations for 7 or more days, eat out all week… That is definitely going to add up and be very expensive. 

I wouldn’t dedicate a whole week for a wedding event. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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afgirl1111:  We will be renting a cabin in the mountains (I live in the foothills).  First we are going to dinner, and then to a little bar that has “Throwback Thursdays” with all 70s and 80s dance music (we’re an older crowd – I’m 46), then back to the cabin for whatever.  It will be nice to have all my friends together since we’re otherwise scattered throughout the east coast, from Boston to Sarasota.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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afgirl1111:  Mine was also on Thursday. My bridesmaids threw me a lingerie shower at the downtown chocolate atelier after hours. 

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

we are getting married on a cruise ship and decided to have a joint party on board. Is it something you guys would consider, seeing as so many people need to fly in?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Honestly, it’s best you just leave it up to them. Tell them you love them, don’t need a party, but if they want to throw one they can choose where or when 🙂

I have 6 BMs, I live in a different country than all of them. Only 3 of them live within an hour of my “home base” back in the US, the others live in dif states and one lives in a dif country. I told them exactly what I said above, and they are planning a weekend getaway somewhere anyway. It’s going to be 6-8 months before the wedding, as (from what I’ve heard from my MOH) it’s just more convenient time wise, and gives everyone that hcance to spread out flights. I’ve emphasized that I do not want them spending so much on me, but they aren’t listening haha. They are the sweetest.

But yes, just let them choose. 

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