(Closed) Bachelorette Party Advice

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Member
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Are you worried that they will be offended that they’re not invited to the wedding, or do you think your bachelorette won’t be as fun with women you’re not that close to there?

I would honestly just let it go- “the more the merrier”. I’m sure they know they’re not invited to the wedding, so, if they still choose to come, that’s their perrogative. If you’ll be uncomfortable with them there, just tell your Maid/Matron of Honor. Be honest. She’s presumably a good friend of yours, she should understand. Good luck!

Post # 3
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1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As I am not the type of person that can let loose and be myself around strangers, I would also feel uncomfortable. 

Since she is your Maid/Matron of Honor I think your rapport with her is good enough that you could address it, or rather dig around for the reason they are suddenly invited (maybe it’s monetary to help pay the bill?). 

Post # 4
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Hmm, that’s definitely awkward. Can I ask how you found out? Do you have other bridesmaids you could enlist to gently let her know that you’d rather just have your close friends (those who are invited to the wedding) there with you on your big night out?

Post # 5
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Explain to her that it is bad etiquette to invite people to pre-wedding parties when they are to be excluded from the main event.

Post # 6
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you just need to be honest with her. If you would rather then not be there then you should say so. Just kindly explain how you feel without making it a super big deal. A lot of people have the “more the merrier” thought and don’t even think twice about it.

Do you know what you are doing for the party? Would there be any reason that you could need more people, for example maybe she’s getting a limo and needs to make sure it is filled? There could be many different reasons why she invited them and didn’t say anything to you about it.

Post # 10
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrs.vincent:  Then you just need to talk to her about it. Explain to her that you just want something small with only your closest friends that will also be attending the wedding. It sounds like she was just trying to turn this into a big bash and she probably has no idea that you don’t want it to be like that. I don’t think she will really care. It’s your party and it should be however you want it to be.

Post # 11
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2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would say that the bachelorette is the only party where I think it’s ok to invite non-wedding guests. It’s just a fun night out so as long as those girls understand that they’re not invited to the wedding then it’s ok.

However, I agree with you, I would only want people I know there and not total strangers especially if it’s something small. I agree with PP, be honest with her and tell her you were hoping to keep it small.

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