Post # 1
I know this topic has been posted numerous times….but I’m bored today and thought why not. I’m 36 and a first time bride. My friends keep asking me about a bacheloretty party, and I definitely want to do something.
I was never much of a wild party club kind of girl, so a traditional night out at the bars doesn’t seem a good fit. AND, to further complicate things, my friends all have kids now, and a few have babies under 1 year, and aren’t sure they could get away for a whole weekend.
So…..what other ideas have you seen or done? I still want to celebrate and have fun with my friends, but something a little less wild than a bar, and more creative than a movie night in? 🙂
Ack! I have no ideas!
Post # 3
I’m 38 and a first time bride. Some ideas that have been thrown around for mine:
– day of wine tours (I live in VIrginia and we have a ton of wineries)
– sleepover with classic 80’s movies – 16 candles, Pretty in Pink, Say Anything, etc.
– a REALLY nice dinner, like REALLY REALLY we’d never go there ever kind of dinner
Post # 4
We rented a house about 4 hours from where I live. A few of the girls couldn’t come b/c of family or work and I expected that and was okay with it. We had a nice dinner Friday night and than Saturday went and spent the day at vineyards wine tasting. We still enjoyed some alcohol without going crazy or being out at bars/clubs. The weather was perfect. The views of the mountians amazing. And the company couldn’t have been any better. I loved it. Each of my girls was kind enough to buy me a bottle from one of the vineyards so I have been able to share the experience with Fiance as well. I am 32.
He is 37 and is struggling with his bachelor party. Most of his guys have been married for a few years they see his party as a night for a “hall pass” a night away from wives and kids. He doesn’t want anything crazy like that. He really wants to just go to an NBA game and have a nice night. No idea what they will do.
Post # 5
@Glasgowbound: That is where we went for my wine tours. VA. Charlottesville to be exact.
Post # 6
DEBeachGirl : YES! my FI’s friends are all married and are pushing really hard for a weekend away. Meanwhile, their wives are the ones that cannot get away for more than one night. 🙂
We might have a winery or two here….that would be fun if we had a driver!
Post # 7
my friend did a combo bridal shower/bachelorette. the Maid/Matron of Honor hosted a light lunch (around 1pm) at her house where we talked and opened presents and played games. around 6pm we went to dinner and then had drinks at a karaoke bar. not everyone attended everything since it was sort of an all day affair but it definitely allowed people to sort of customize what they could do. people who didin’t drink or had to turn in early skipped the bar. some people had obligations during the day so only came to the evening activities. etc.
i also know a girl whose bridesmaids threw her a fancy tea party and everyone dressed up. her Maid/Matron of Honor was afraid people might think it was “stuffy” or “stuck up” but we still played games and gossiped so i actually had a lot of fun!
another idea (depending on budget) is to do a day of pampering at a spa. get massages or facials or even just your nails done and then do dinner after.
Post # 8
I too am in the same boat, first time bride at 35. On top of all the complications mentioned, my bridal party is spread out all over the country. I’m already feeling guilty about the amount of money everyone will be shelling out just for the actual wedding, I’ve never been in one, guess it’s all new to me, so o ask everyone to either meet somewhere centrally, or for the out of towers to come here by me, makes me pretty uncomfortable. With everyone all over (including my MOH) I’m not sure who will pick up the ball to plan the bachelorette party, I’d feel pretty weird planning it for myself, but feel even weirder asking someone to handle the planning. I too don’t want the traditional 20 something bachelorette party with cheesy veils and penis shaped everything. Any and all suggestions will be truly appreciated.
Post # 9
I never got this reply notice. Glad you know where I am coming from. I had/have 2 pregnant bridesmaids so a driver wasn’t an issue. You could look into a Limo or a driver.
Post # 10
I’m 35. I’ll be your age when its time for me to do this…
I was thinking a spa day & a nice dinner with a few drinks. I don’t want to do the whole night out thing. It’s not me.
Post # 11
I lkike the idea of a wine tour and maybe add a mani/pedi/spa day in there — I’m sure you mom friends would appreciate that!
Post # 12
I was 39 when I got married…and YES, you DESERVE to have a Bachelorette party! I wasn’t a big partier either and definitely did not want strippers. So, we opted to get a bus and spent a day at the wineries! It was an amazing and fun time with my best girls!
Post # 13
I’m 34 and a first-time bride. Most of my friends are married. One adopted a child over the summer. Two of my bridesmaids have been married before and are getting married in the months after my wedding (one of them has two kids, the rest of us do not have children). I’ve never been a big drinker/partier/etc. so we are going to a nice dinner, then karaoke and a “slumber party”. I’m looking forward to a nice night out with the girls.
Post # 14
I’m going to be almost 34 when I get married, so I’m in the same boat. I’ve done so many of the wild drunken nights out at bars and it’s really just not my scene anymore. I’d love to do some sort of event with my girls that doesn’t involve shots of tequila and random guys hitting on us because where the bachelorette party. Maybe a vineyard tour/wine tasting, nice dinner, girls night IN… all the options noted above sound nice!
@Merelymere: I love the slumber party idea!!
Post # 15
I don’t live near a vineyard, but I love that idea. Slumber party might be the winner so far….. 🙂
Post # 16
I will be 32 when I get married. We are having a desitnation wedding and honestly I just want to spend a couple of days with my sisters (who are my bridesmaids) being sisters (2 live overseas). I don’t really want a big night out or anything, I want a couple of days to chill, eat good food, drink great wine and shop!