(Closed) Bachelorette Party Cost…What to do? Poll included

posted 4 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Who should pay for the bachelorette party?
    The MOH and BM pays for it all : (3 votes)
    5 %
    The MOH/BM pay for food and everyone pitches in towards a party bus : (7 votes)
    13 %
    Everyone pays their own way (except the bride of course!) : (45 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 2
    47 posts
    • Wedding: September 2016

    It doesn’t hurt to ask if you’re not comfortable paying that much. It sounds like either she is picking up more of the tab or going to ask people to pitch in because I think party buses are pretty expensive, but I could be wrong. 

    Post # 3
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    In all the bachelorette parties I’ve been to, the organisers figured out the costs and divided it equally between the girls to pay (except the bride of course).

    Post # 4
    374 posts
    Helper bee

    Swebs14:  She really should have not planned it all and then requested $200. Since you are a bridesmaid, she should have asked you your thoughts and budget price. I would pay what you can afford and no more.

    Post # 5
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee

    Sounds like she’s planned it without thinking about costs.

    If it’s going to be a lot, it’s courtesy to ask how much people are comfortable with BEFORE finalising things.

    Generally, everyone pays their own way other than the bride. At least that’s how it’s done near me.


    id just raise the fact that you’re uncomfortable wi the costs. The take it from there.

    Post # 6
    5816 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think if you’re asking people to chip in they should have a say in the plans, as in you and her could have discussed ideas & options. Making all the decisions herself and then telling you what to ‘chip in’ isn’t fair. You and your Darling Husband have to put your own finances first and decide what you’re willing/ able to pay.

    Also, what other costs are you having to pay for in relation to this wedding? Is there going to be a shower as well you’re expected to help pay for? And (though I realize this has nothing to do with the MOH’s decisions), what is the bride paying for re her bridal party? As in dresses, shoes, hair & make-up etc? Reason I’m asking is, if this is the only thing (or one of a very few things) that has been asked of you, I’d tend to go along with it (provided the $200 is do-able for you) but if this is Expense #9 of like 15 different things you’re supposed to pay for, then I’d be feeling the pinch and have a talk with Maid/Matron of Honor about the party bus portion of the expense.


    Post # 7
    3445 posts
    Sugar bee

    Swebs14:  at the only bach party I’ve ever been to, all the girls paid $20 each for the bus. Then paid their own way for food, drinks, etc. The bridal party paid for the bride. I think you can ask about splitting the tab with the other party goers.

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