Post # 1
So my Maid/Matron of Honor is 17 and trying to plan an amazing bachelorette party for me… The big problem for her is cost. She’s in high school and is only working part time. My parents have offered to help her with the costs but they are already helping me pay for some of the wedding so i feel bad for them to have to pitch in more. So i guess my question is would it be tacky for the others invited to the bachelorette party to pay for themselves if we go out for lunch or get mani/pedis? Or what else would you suggest?
Post # 3
Are there other memebers of the bridal party who could pitch in?
In my experience, with bachelorette parties, the bridal party covers the bride’s costs, and their own, and everyone else covers their own. I’ve never been to a bachelorette party where I didn’t pay my own way (haven’t had mine yet).
Post # 4
I don’t think that would be tacky at all. If I was attending a bachelorette party, I would expect to pay for my own costs (lunch, spa costs, drinks, whatever). It would be super sweet if it was free, but I wouldn’t expect it.
Post # 5
@pinkfrog: I’m only having 3 girls in my bridal party 2 of which are my sisters 14 & 17 and then also his sister. Which i’m not worried about my parents/bms pay for me. I just would feel terrible if they had to cover the expenses of everyone else. Cuz everything adds up so fast!
mani/pedis – $50 per person
Dinner – about $17 per person
And the reason i’m having to ask this is, I’ve only had the chance to go to one bacheloretter party and didn’t go because i was the only one under 21. so i’m not really sure how all of this works… So i thank everyone that can give me any input.
Post # 6
You’re not responsible for paying for the costs of a bachelorette party – the guests pay for that. Plan for events that your friends can afford.
If you’re all high rollers, shoot – fly to Vegas (or Iziba!) and party it up. If you’re a bit on the financiallly conservative side, dinner and a movie, or even just meeting at a swanky lounge for a drink or two will suffice! 🙂 Either way, generally the attendees pay for the bride and themselves to participate.
Post # 7
As long as the cost is covered for yourself by the party then the rest of the girls are on there own.
Post # 8
I thought everyone paid for themselves too. I have been to two bachelorette parties and both times I paid for my own meal, drinks and cover charge at the bars (if there was one).
Post # 9
All the BMs pay their own way. This is expected, it’s not rude in the least. So your sisters will have to have your parents pitch in. I don’t think $60/for each sister is a big expense for your parents, just discuss with them how much they can give your sisters and work within that budget. If your’e really strapped for cash, get a groupon for half off manis, just get the manis and then go out to dinner or get chinese, it’s cheaper. Again, use a groupon for dinner.
Post # 10
I’ve never attended (or heard of) a fully hosted bachelorette party. It is typical for the bridesmaid(s) to pay for themselves and for the bride, while everybody else pays their own way.