Post # 1
How much is reasonable to expect guests to cover for a bachelorette party weekend at the beach? I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor and I’m going to be paying for over half of the cost of renting a house, but I’m wondering what is fair to ask the other gals to chip in. Houses aren’t cheap though I think I got a good deal, and it will end up costing about $100/pp (4 girls besides me and I’m putting down half plus deposits). That doesn’t cover food and drinks though. Do you think this is too much to ask of people? I don’t want them to decline the invite simply because of cost. I really don’t know what is reasonable to ask of people. And I’m not sure how to ask the girls in advance of my putting the deposit on the house. I don’t want to end up stuck with a house that I have to pay for if no one is going to come. I’m not exactly close with these people, but my sister (the bride is) and I just don’t really know what to say as far as the topic of money is concerned.
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
I don’t think $100 is too much. You guys can keep the food and drink cost low by bbq-ing and drinking at the beach house.
Post # 4
$100 is pretty resaonable like the PP said you can easily keep costs down by cooking/grilling your own food and drinking at the house
Post # 5
I think you should just call or e-mail the other BMs, tell them what you are thinking of doing, and approximately how much it would cost. If they can’t afford $100, then tell them you will plan something else, and ask for ideas that are in their budget.
If I were in school, I could swing $100 but it would be a stretch. On the other hand, my Future Sister-In-Law (even though she is in school) has gone to Vegas, etc. for bach parties, but her parents help her pay. I think it really depends on the individual financial situations.
Post # 6
I agree that you should run the idea by the other bridesmaids and be sure they’re ok with it before you book for sure.
Post # 7
@EleanorRigby: I completely agree. I would get all of their e-mails or facebook them individually and ask if they can attend the weekend and say how much everything will cost. That way they won’t be embarrassed to say they can’t afford it because no one else will know. Hopefully that will give you an accurate count.
I have to say, I currently couldn’t afford it. But I am unemployed and right out of college, so hopefully the BMs are in a better state than I am! 🙂