- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I’m kind of upset and angry about the planning of my bachelorette party. First of all I don’t have a bridal party for various reasons so there isn’t anyone the planning would logically fall on. So a friend offered to plan it (I’ll call her D for this post). She got together with another mutual friend and said they would plan. They asked if I would like the pole dancing classes and I told them I am very uncoordinated and that wouldn’t be fun for me. So I gave some suggestions of what I like to do (dinner and a fun bar) but said I’m open to suggestions.
Another few weeks pass and I hear nothing. So I am telling my childhood friend (different friend altogether, ill call her A for this post ) that the bachelorette party will be in Atlanta and to start looking at plane tickets. She asked what we would be doing and I answer honestly I don’t know. Well then she asks if she can help plan. I’m thinking this may help D with the planning because A really knows what I like and D knows Atlanta really well. So I tell A to contact D and offer some suggestions (I talked to D beforehand and asked if it was ok). So A makes contact and D never responds. Basically D sends me a text saying she’s going to let A take over the planning. Well I feel devastated and don’t know how to respond. I ask if everything is ok. Have i offended her? She says no but that she has gotten really busy lately (we are both in doctoral programs). But I found myself wondering if D is too busy or if I have offended D by asking if A could help out.
So I go with the flow and ask A if she’ll plan. She’s thrilled! She gave some ideas that were really good. I made one suggestion just to reduce costs for all involved. A asked if I would put a fb group together and that she would take over and get feedback from other friends including D. Well the page is up and everyone has rsvp’d except D. Also A has not taken over the page and I feel like I’m now planning my own party. I’m just saddened by this whole thing. I’m wondering if I need to apologize to D. Clearly she was hurt although I didn’t mean anything by it. Sigh. Its a mess. I’m honestly thinking about just having dinner and calling it a night. What do you girls think?