(Closed) Bachelorette party—do I ask?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah!! I’m going to help plan mine, I don’t think it needs to be a surprise that the bridesmaids do without any input. Especially if they’re not doing it!! I would just say “hey, so what should we do for my bachelorette party??” 

Post # 4
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely ask them! I think I’m going to be planning mine 😛

Post # 6
7753 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I said something to my Maid/Matron of Honor, mainly to ensure all my closest friends were invited. I suggest gently enquiring with the Maid/Matron of Honor who isn’t marrying the week before. I don’t like the idea of helping plan it though, unless you’re helping to pay.

I guess it depends what your expectations are too. Mine was an ultra low-cost night in at the MOH’s house (and one of the funnest nights I’ve had) so it didnt’ matter that they didn’t plan it until the week before.

Post # 7
12 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was in the opposite shoes..

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friend’s wedding when i was an unorganised 20 year old and struggling through fulltime study, work, paying rent and bills, and had a huge amount on my plate.

The wedding was early January. I didn’t know much about weddings at all, and figured I’d start organising the hens party at some point, but next thing I got invited to the hens party in November… the bride had organised it herself! Much earlier than I’d expected (I guess because of Xmas and New Years being around the corner). I hadn’t really thought to discuss it with her.


Definitely bring it up with them.. they might just be swept up in life but with best intentions.

Post # 8
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Bring it up for sure! I am having two, one in Florida with all my girlfriends there (I moved from there to Michigan about two years ago) and one here in Michigan with my friends here because expecting them to come to the other state is just asking too much. Well the FL one was planned months and months ago, but the Michigan one, that a friend here offered to plan, had the ball dropped on it because she got pregnant and had a kid after offering. I finally approached her last month and mentioned another friend had offered to help her organize it and she felt SO bad that she had dropped the ball and now things are being planned as we speak. Sometimes life gets crazy for people and things slip between the cracks. 

Post # 9
18 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was emailed a save the date, but no details and it was a good thing or there would have been a scheduling conflict. So I would ask.
I didn’t know about my bridal shower date so I just asked one of my close friends (we’re not having a bridal party) if I should keep any dates open.
Your friends should know it’s a busy time, so I don’t think anyone would be offended.

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