Post # 1
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
So 7 weeks out from my wedding, 6 weeks from the scheduled date of the bachelorette party and I’m second-guessing if I really want to have one.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is putting it on for me, I put hers on for her around this time last year. I’m fine with going out, drinking, dancing, etc. but the thing is I don’t have a lot of lady friends so it sounds terribly boring/awkward to me. It’d be me, Maid/Matron of Honor, good friend not in bridal party (who may not even be able to come because she just got a new job), bridesman and 3 random girls who may or may not come because they’re BFFs as a group so if 1 doesn’t come neither will the rest.
I went through a lot of trouble and effort for my MOH’s party and I don’t want to put that stress on her even tho she said she’d host it. I don’t think she’s done many preparations for it yet, last time I talked to her about it she wasn’t sure where we’d have it, where we’d pre-drink/game, etc.
Can I tell her this? Would you be offended if you were throwing the party and I told you this? Other thoughts?
Post # 3
If I was the Maid/Matron of Honor, I would want the party to be exactly what the bride wanted.
Ive been to parties with 3 people and one that was 30 (way too many in my opinion) but both were equally fun!!
We are plannning a bachelorette next spring for a friend of mine that doesn’t drink and didn’t want the typical party. So we are having a girls night slumber party. We’re wearing pjs all night, eating pizza and snacks and watching girls movies. It’s exactly what the bride wants and it’s going to be a blast!
Post # 4
I didn’t have a bachelorette party because I just didn’t want one. It’s not really my style and I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that. She was fine with it. If it were me throwing the party, I’d rather you told me that have me go through the effort of planning it. Why not do a girls night in or something you’d enjoy more?
Post # 5
Maybe instead of the going out plan, you could do something more low-key? Wine or cocktails at someone’s house, or having a great dinner at a restaurant? Or some people do totally non-bachelorette things: laser tag, paintball, etc. Would that be a good compromise?
I wouldn’t be offended if I was hosting and the guest of honor said they don’t want a big night on the town.