Post # 1
I’m concerned about how to balance activities for my bachelorette party. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my younger sister and she is teaming up with one of my other bridesmaids to host a bachelorette party/lingerie shower combo for me. They are sweet to keep asking me what I want to do at the party, but I am concerned that either 1) it won’t be enough fun for my friends that tend to be more on the party side of life or 2) I will offend other friends that tend to be more reserved.
As of now, this is what I have planned:
My parent’s house was most centrally located for everyone, so they offered it to us for the night (they’ll head up to North Georgia for the weekend or something). My thoguht was to have the girls arrive around dinner time, and have dinner provided so they can eat while I’m opening gifts (since it’s also a lingerie shower). Then I found this place down the road from us, and the idea is you bring your own snacks and wine (or whatever your beverage choice is) for the evening and paint a picture while one of the staff members sort of guides the group through it.. kind of like a Sips n Strokes deal (that sounds like my idea of fun.. I’m just not sure if it’s considered ‘bachelorette party’ fun for hte other girls?). Afterwards maybe head down to Atlanta for a bit of dancing and drinks then back to my parents house to watch movies for the girls that want to crash at my parents house.
So as you can see I am pretty much avoiding traditional bachelorette party activities for the girls that wouldn’t be comfortable w that stuff, but I think a few of my other girl friends are going to be disappointed in the evening’s outcome.
What do you all think? Are there any other suggestions about what to do for the evening?
And because I’m a fan of polls.. I couldn’t resist attaching one lol.
Post # 3
Before I vote, how long does the painting activity last? I could see that being fun for about an hour, but I would not want to spend too long there. The other concern is whether you would all have to go back to the house and change before going out? Do they provide robes or something you you won’t ruin your dresses?
Post # 4
I think the painting thing lasts about 1.5-2 hrs. I thought maybe it’d be fun because the girls that want to drink could bring their own stuff (help painting move along, lol) and the girls that didn’t want to drink wouldn’t have to. It’d probably be from 7-9p. And I’m pretty sure the place offers aprons to wear while you paint. But if some of the girls are concerned, the painting place is literally only about 8 miles down the road so a quick trip to the house wouldn’t be that inconvenient.
Post # 5
I think it sounds like fun, I love it when people put a twist on things and go a different route.
This way you still can relax and have fun, but still get out later. Gret ideas!
I also love the idea of a lingerie shower, it will give you some options for your honeymoon 😉
Post # 6
Sounds fun to me!
I had some party animals mixed with some more resered ladies. I was a little stressed the entire time. We just went to dinner at a fun restaurant and then went to the dueling piano bar. It was fine and everyone had a good time.
Post # 7
Okay, that is not too long, and the fact that it is so close to home helps. I think it could be fun, depending on the personalities of the ladies you have. I am more of a partier myself, but if you told me we were going to paint and pre-party before dancing, I think I’d be excited 🙂
Post # 8
You didn’t have my option, which is that I love all of it!
Post # 9
Don’t people normally bring lingerie to a bachelorette party as a gift? I thought that was just a given?
Post # 10
If you are concerned about the pre-dancing part being a little too slow for the party ladies, but it still is something happening at the house, then why not liven that up with some naughty and silly games?
Two of my high school friends married up-and-coming preachers shortly after we graduated, so none of us was 21. So you’re talking about a crowd that was not too crazy, but couldn’t go nuts on alcohol even if we wanted to do so. However, they were still pretty laid back when it came to crazy stuff that didn’t involve getting drunk or breaking laws because just since they married men who later became pastors didn’t mean they wanted to shun all ideas of good sex in a healthy marriage.
As a hostess, we made a penis-cake. (I have to brag that it was one of the best dirty cakes I have ever seen – especially since 2 of the 3 girls helping make it had never seen that part of the anatomy before outside of pictures!) That made people laugh at the beginning and throughout the night over the silly aspect. A few days prior, I made a penis piñata. We filled it with candy, naughty candy, condoms, and a few of the gag-gift type things you find at adult novelty shops – dirty dice, things like that. We had pin the macho on the man, and some other silly games like that from the adult store. We did that prior to and after the lingerie gift opening.
Some might say it was too in your face, but everyone from the most conservative church friend to the party girl was laughing. It was meant to be a bit over the top, so while it was all “dirty,” it was conducted in a way that was far more silly and lighthearted than actually engaging in anything too personal. If you did tie in some games, then maybe you could have a themed drink – an alcoholic versions for those who drink and a virgin version for those who don’t drink or plan to drive.
Post # 11
I went to a bachelorette party where we did something similar (minus the lingerie party) and everyone seemed to have a good time.
Post # 12
The party sounds great. I’m not big on showers in general, lingerie showers included, so that is the only part I might not enoy. But I realize most people do like these. 🙂
Post # 13
OP – honestly, I feel like you should just do whatever you want to do. There’s no way you can please everyone unfortunately. For example, I personally would not want to do the painting thing at all. But I’m sure others would love it. Just do what you think is fun and I’m sure your friends will support you no matter what. 🙂
Post # 14
I would be excited if I were going to that bachelorette party. I think it sounds great.
Post # 15
It’s your day! I’m more about the going out and rocking out. But, I have been to bachelorette parties where we sat around and ate and drank and enjoyed those too. Your friends who really care will just want you to be happy. This isn’t my kind of thing that you described, but I would have fun anyway or at least pretend to!
Post # 16
Its really about you and what you want to do. Your friends will have fun because they are with you!