Bachelorette party drama???

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
4959 posts
Honey bee

Don’t think of it as shady, think of them being not rude.

It’s rude to discuss things in front of people who aren’t invited.  Do you go up to people not invited to your wedding and then subject them to a rundown of every little thing going on with your wedding and how excited you are for it and how much fun it’s going to be and then point out how they arent invited?  No (or I hope not) because that’s rude.

Also, they are just living their lives.  Would you have paid this much attention and scrutinized it as much as you are if it wasn’t in close proximity to your wedding?  Do they routinely run all of their vacation plans by you for approval?  Is it possible they were treading lightly on this one because they knew you would scrutinize it? 

They are bridesmaids for one day.  All the rest of their days they are just living their lives and making plans with their spouses and friends.  And just because she is free to go on vacation a couple weeks from now still doesn’t mean she is available for your bachelorette.  Her availability on date X is independent of her availability on date Y.  Or that she should have to give up a vacation with her spouse to attend a party without her spouse if she can only afford one right now.  If given the option I’m blowing my budget on something enjoyed by me and my SO jointly.  Bachelorette parties just aren’t ranked as high in my list of priorities.

Post # 17
3971 posts
Honey bee

Of course you can be upset about this.  Not only is she not going to the bachelorette party, but she is going on a trip with another close friend.  I would find it odd if you weren’t disappointed with the situation.

However, everyone is right that you just have to let it go.  They probably had it booked prior to the bachelorette party plans and maybe they didn’t invite you because they assumed you wouldn’t be able to go so close to your wedding. 

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