Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor wants to plan my bachelorette party. She is much more of a partier than me and keeps pushing for other locations (i.e. Vegas) that require people to fly and I do not want to put that burden on anyone. I have my heart set on renting a house about 3 hours away and going wine tasting (there are a ton of wineries near where we are planning) for a weekend. Nothing too costly. Am I allowed to request the location and date or do I need to just go with the flow?!?
Post # 3
Your Maid/Matron of Honor should know you well enough to do things that YOU would enjoy. You’re the bride so she should definitely plan something that you’d want. She should ask you for some suggestions.
Post # 4
You definitely get to pick the date because it has to work for you! However, I think the location should be more of a discussion. If you think that flying would limit the number of people that could attend, then tell your Maid/Matron of Honor that is important to you that it be driving distance. You should also feel free to tell her your ideas (wine tasting, renting a house) and anything that you definitely don’t want to do. But make sure you give her the freedom to come up with some ideas without dictating exactly what she should do. If she doesn’t listen, you might encourage some of your other friends to talk to her about the kinds of activities you would enjoy.
Post # 5
I think that you should have a say in the date, but not the whole thing. I gave my Maid/Matron of Honor a list of “do nots” (i.e. do NOT make ANYONE carry around penises all night; do NOT try to sell things to make money– if you need money i will give you some; do NOT make me wear somehting stupid. I am wearing what i feel good in, not an ugly t-shirt with my name on it.) other than that, though, she has full rein with the other bridesmaids to plan based on what they can afford to throw me.
I’d just try to talk with her… she should be trying to plan something you will enjoy.