(Closed) Bachelorette Party Etiquette……..who pays for the Bachelorette Party???

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m a little confused..I didn’t really read the whole thing. But from the gist of it, I don’t necessarily think that’s right. I would never expect my Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaids to shell out that much for my bachelorette party in the first place – to me that’s insane. (Not that you asked them to – I understand they took it upon themselves to plan that). To some people, totally normal – depends on your budget. That being said, I always thought that each bridesmaid paid for their ticket or w/e you are doing, and then all of the girls split the cost of the bride. I could be wrong though – I’ve never been to a bachelorette party, nor have I had mine yet. But if they have all these “stresses” they probably should have looked into a cheaper party, maybe? I’m not really sure.. =/

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmm I always thought the BM’s and Maid/Matron of Honor split the cost between themselves for the bride, but i have never been to a stagette that costs min 500.00 each to start with so i dont know what the rule would be on this one.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@FairytaleEnding: It may be reasonable to her..who knows. Does she know everyone who is attending? If not you can say that its to expensive for some of the guests and you w ould like to do something more in the $200.00 range etc.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My bridal party paid for mine. It was also a trip, they surprised me and bought my flight, hotel, food, everything. But I guess everybody does it differently.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@FairytaleEnding: I was just thinking my stagette, we drove to Whistler, rented a townhouse, went out for dinner and dancing, and did a big tour on top of the mountain. My Maid/Matron of Honor supplised all the drinks and we had tons of food, decorations etc and they didnt pay dime over 200.00 (including covering my costs) so its very much affordable to have a great weekend without breaking the bank.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can see the BM’s splitting the cost of a night out but not an entire weekend away.  Personally, I think that’s too much.  Again, I’m not saying you’re asking for it nor was this your idea.  When my friends had an out of town bachelorette party, everyone paid their own way (including the bride) for the flight and hotel.  One night was designated as the big night and everyone (but the bride) split the cost of dinner and bought the bride drinks.

If you’re not able to afford this cruise, then maybe you should talk to your Maid/Matron of Honor and BM’s about doing something more local or something cheaper in your price range.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Maid/Matron of Honor, BM’s and friends who attended my Bachlorette party split the cost for everything that night except for the hotel room we stayed in.  (Only my Maid/Matron of Honor chipped in for the room.)  So I do think that the bride isn’t supposed to pay for anything however, your trip sounds a lil on the pricey side.  And since it is a cruise, is it an “all inclusive” type of deal where all the food and drinks are included?  If so, then I think your girls should chip in since there will be no other “incurred” costs…however, if it is not, then they are probably planning a “night out” type of thing where they will all chip in for you.  I doubt they will all want pay your way for the whole trip being that they altready shelled out $475 to start. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@FairytaleEnding: I would just tell her flat out that you will not have the $450 next month either, if you were too shell that out it would be taking money out of your wedding budget and  would rather not skimp on the wedding for a lavish  Bachelorette party. So either the BM’s and her cover your cost like it’s a custom too, or they find a more budget friendly alternative to the cruise.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

 

@FairytaleEnding: I have to agree with @Anniebo: you just need to flat out tell her its to much for you and possibly for some of the other girls. This is your stagette it should be what the girls are comfortable with  (all of them) and more importantly yourself!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@FairytaleEnding: If you can afford the $200 maybe tell her all you can afford is the $200 and if her or the other BM’s can split the rest of it that is fine too.

But In My Humble Opinion you can have a bachelorette party for alot cheaper, maybe not a cruise, but it can still  be nice.

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