Post # 16
The bachelorette parties I’ve attended have all been weekend getaway type events. So they’ve generally cost somewhere around $500-$1000. So, to me $100 sounds totally reasonable. But, this will totally depend upon what is the norm in your circle.
I also agree that the bride shouldn’t be the one collecting $ and organizing the party.
Post # 17
kh2017: OK, my 2 cents… I just got married in September and ran across this question…I had a destination wedding on the beach (6 hour drive and you had to stay overnight) I was sensitive to this and only had 2 girls in my party…one night was on me because we shared the room and the second night they had to come up with..The hotel was not cheap. I believe it was 250/night… plus the travel expenses and time off for one of them…One was a teacher, single, and things were tight for her financially. I knew when I asked her that I would rather front the money than either not have her in it or sacrafice what I wanted to do for my wedding festivities.The other girl was my sister in law and she has 3 children under 4 and my brother works while she cares for them..again, not the most fluid cash flow…I wanted to go to Vegas for my bachelorette so I paid for their flights and I picked up the hotel bill. They paid for the show and my drinks. I also paid for their dresses and they purchased their own shoes. I had to bend a bit and put what I wanted to do into my budget for everyone. Having somebody in your wedding is a lot to ask and can be a huge financial burden… I think if you can put yourself in each of your bridal party’s shoes, it will help you determine if 100 bucks is a lot to ask..it very well could be…
Post # 18
I would pay that amount myself, but it all depends on your guests and their budgets. Perhaps bring it up to them, and ask them how they would feel about spending that much money, and just be willing to change your plans if they aren’t on board with it. You could always do the original plan with friends at another date!
Post # 19
I’d pay that happily because a water park sounds like a lot of fun!! $100 seems very reasonable. I know mine was much more and I felt really guilty about it.
Post # 20
For my groups of friends, $100 would be pretty cheap. We are all in our late 20s-early 30s so we have a bit more disposible income. Now if we were all college students, $100 might be a bit much so definitely as a PP said, this is a know your crowd issue.
In general though, that price for a water park and accomodations is a good deal.
Post # 21
I think that $100 is very reasonable, I would pay it. That sounds like a fun bachelorette!
Post # 22
kh2017: I have spent around 90 dollars for most bach parties, and you are getting a lot for yours! I would pay that and not think twice. Those who do not want to pay will decline- no biggie!
Post # 23
$100 for a bachelorette party sounds like a stinking bargain to me and, based on the parties to which I’ve been invited, it’s the same for my friends too. But, as long as you know your audience it should be fine.
It is good that you’re considering the price, as not all brides do.
Post # 24
I think it depends on the people, what their interested in and what their finances are like. I would honestly just ask, and see what most of them say. If not, ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to get an idea from your girls.
Post # 25
I would LOVE that and it sounds like you know your crowd. I wouldn’t normally go to a waterpark on my own (FI can’t swm!) but with my girlfriends I think it’d be fun.
If they’re local tho, they might not want to stay over.
My Maid/Matron of Honor asked for ideas and then was like …so which of these two event would you prefer? XD I think it’s fine to say, hey I think going to be waterpark would be fun and look at this deal I found.
Post # 26
$100 seems very reasonable (again, just in my circles) and I don’t see the problem with giving your Maid/Matron of Honor ideas/potential costs if she’s the one doing the major planning, inviting, and collecting.
I’m going through this right now. My two MOHs are having a really hard time communicating with each other and with the other girls for whatever reason, probably because they are all busy and don’t have experience with planning a somewhat big event. I threw out some ideas, found some links, found the best pricing options, gave them to my Maid/Matron of Honor and let them take it from there. They are planning on spending around $300 per person for the weekend, but A. it’s totally optional B. The girls can choose to come only Saturday or only Sunday and pay $100 for one days festivities instead.
I’m glad I suggested what I did to them, so no one feels pressured to spend that much, or miss the party entirely if they want to spend closer to $100. I feel a lot less anxious about whats going on behind the scene and can just relax while they take care of the rest of the logistics.