Post # 1
I am acting as Maid/Matron of Honor for my big sister’s wedding. I am planning the bachelorette party right now, and just kind of stumbled on a plan. My sister said it is perfect for what she wants. The guests (all of whom live at least an hour away) will carpool to get here. We will go to my sis’s favorite restaurant and then go bar hopping. My saint of a fiance will then pick us up and take us back to our house. He will spend the night out so we can have a ladies night though, and we have plenty of room for all the partiers to sleep! The next morning I will make a big hungover breakfast for everyone and then the carpool will return everyone home.
Now the big question, how do I divide the cost? I am perfectly fine paying for my food and drinks, and the bride’s food and drinks, her bride to be gear (veil, fake bouquet, etc), the invites, and the food for the next day. Is it fair to ask that everyone just pay their own way the night of? I really don’t want it to look tacky that people are invited, but then have to pay, but I cannot afford to pay for everyone and the other bm’s are financially strained as well. There are only 2 or 3 people invited who are not in the wedding party.
Post # 3
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: of course! You can even ask the other Bridal Party memebers to chip in for the brides dinner and drinks! That’s how I have always done it. Pay my way and split the bride’s way between everyone.
Post # 4
I think it is standard to have everyone pay her own way at a bachelorette party. Also, the guests usually split the bride’s tab.
Post # 5
@les105: I think that’s how we’ve always done it, too.
Post # 6
Thanks for your input! I feel much much better about the plan now! The only bachelorette party I had been to was just a dinner and the Future Mother-In-Law ended up paying for everything.
Post # 7
I’ve never been to a Bach party that I didn’t have to at least pay my own way adn 99% of the time I help split the bride’s dinner and drinks as well. While it would be nice to have a free night out as a non-bridesmaid, I would never expect it!
Post # 8
I think you should all split dinner evenly and let people know this beforehand, and then yes, every girl for herself the night of! I think that’s perfectly fine!
Post # 9
I’ve always paid my way when goign to a bachelorette party, and I’ve almost always split the brides’ costs amongst bridesmaids if I was one. So I think you’re totally fine!