Post # 1
I want to find out your opinion to see if I am way off base in what I am asking my friends to spend on my bachelorette party.
My bachelorette party is going to be a weekend getaway at a beach house in Galveston, TX. I purposely chose Galveston becuase it is driving distance for all of my Texas friends, many of which live in the Houston area.
For a three night stay including drinks, meals, snacks and games, we are asking those attending to pay $175 per person. Is this ridiculous???Sure I know its more than it would cost to go out on the town for one night in a city we all lived in but its 3 nights, all inclusive!!
We are all around 30 years old and have great careers and they are given 4 months notice!
I guess the biggest reason I am upset is that everyone has been on board except my twin sister. She just got married and I didn’t say one word about anything she asked me to purchase or chip in for. I even paid more than that to throw her bachelorette party!! She thinks its ridiculous that I would ask her to spend so much.
Post # 3
I didnt ask my friends to spend any on my bachelorette party. They planned it themselves and i had no input. We didnt do your typical bachelorette party instead we went out to a nice restaurant for dinner and went to a comedy show afterwards. We had a fantastic night! I never saw the bill but im guessing they spent around 175 – 200 each. To answer your question i dont think 175-200 for 3 nights is expensive at all. However, i think the girls are throwing this for you so i dont think you should tell them what they should be spending or even where but more just give suggestions on what you would ike to do if asked!
Post # 4
I think thats a good amount. I am actually not a part of the planning process but i was told that would be the approximate ammount.
Also, I am paying my own way. I know its not customary to do so but I do feel bad about asking people to travel and spend a lot of money for me.
Post # 5
My bachelorette is a complete surprise to me being planned by my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids (honestly all I know about it is the date, and that there will be 3 activities over the course of the day). I don’t know what a typical cost is though, since I’ve never been a bridesmaid, and the only bachelorette parties I’ve been to I’ve paid around $50 for myself and a contribution for the bride. Yours sounds like a super fun weekend though!!
Post # 6
If the rest of them are fine, have you just said to your sister, “I spent more than this on yours.” ??
I don’t know what typically good costs are, we are going to my MoH’s cabin in the mountains so the space is free. I dk how much food and wine and all the rest is going to be…So I didn’t vote.
Post # 7
That’s what I’d expect to pay for a weekend away – but, I know a lot of my friends wouldn’t be able to afford that type of thing
… you might want to try to get a firm commitment from people, because I’d imagine prices will rise as peopel back out.
Post # 8
I think that’s reasonable for what you are getting. But, that still doesn’t mean that everyone will be able to afford it, especially with all the other expenses that go along with being in a wedding.
I *think* my bridal party and I are going to winery hopping and then spending the night in the area. We’ll probably all cram in 1-2 rooms, so I’m guessing we’ll spend maybe $100/each…I would hate for them to spend more than that.
That would hurt my feelings if I spent a lot of money on my sister’s bachelorette, and I was trying to be nice by paying my own way & finding a deal, and she was unable/unwilling to pay for mine.
Post # 9
I don’t think that that amount is a lot but if she can’t or doesn’t want to afford it, then there really isn’t much you can do about it. See if there is a way you can reduce the cost to everyone a little bit or just tell her that you’re sorry but you’re not the one planning this and while you’d love for her to attend, you understand if she can’t afford it.
The hosts of the party should be the ones discussing costs with everyone, not you. Ask whoever is in charge to try to reduce the costs or offer to cover some of your twin’s share if it’s important to you that she is there. Then have the hostess call her and tell her what’s up.
Post # 10
considering its a whole weekend, that sounds like a fair price. have fun!
could your sister have some issues with her own wedding/bachelorette party that are making her upset?
Post # 11
$175 is an amazing deal if it’s including drinks, snacks, meals, games and room & board for three nights!!
so jealous. I wanted an all weekend party. have fun!
Post # 12
She might be jealous? I have always had a large group of close girlfriends and she has usually stuck with a friend or two and her now husband
I don’t know exactly what we are doing while we are there. All I know is how much the tentative cost is because I am paying my way.
I think it’s a great deal and everyone says they are so excited. I am willing to pay her cost too f it helps but I think she should just be nice and go. She didn’t even have to buy her own dress so there’s her trip money 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t think that sounds like a lot at all for 3 days away! I agree with others that you shouldn’t be dealing with the costs side of things though, because that makes it awkward. I think your Maid/Matron of Honor, or whoever is planning the event, should tell everyone what the costs are and then it should be up to each bridesmaid’s discretion whether or not she can afford it. Maybe also do a casual night out in your hometown so that anyone unable to go on the trip can still celebrate with you on a night out that doesn’t cost very much?
Post # 14
I would do something else for those unable to attend however the only one who has said anything negative is my sister. Thanks for all of your input!
Post # 15
@bobsoon2bewife9887: same with me. They planned it and they paid for it, though they asked me some questions and I tried to be mindful of how much I thought stuff would cost. ie we could have gone to Atlantic City which would have been more expensive than going out in Philly which is what we did. I’d say they must have each paid between $100-150 between 7 people, but I’m not sure.
Post # 16
My sister is planning my bachelorette party. She has an idea of what I would like, but I am not involved in cost calculating, since technically brides don’t plan their own pre-wedding parties.
It will be the same weekend as the shower, since most everyone is Out of Town and I don’t want people to have to travel more than necessary. We’ll be at the beach, in a ‘cheaper’ beach town, Hampton, New Husband. Kind of cheesey, but I think it will be great. I love the beach and being outside, so this will be awesome.