Post # 1
so the wedding is coming up in 7 short weeks and I can’t wait.
the one thing I am really nervous about, though–is the bachelorette party!
i am a pretty conservative Southern girl, I am a Christian but I do like to go out and dance, have some drinks, I mean i don’t ever get drunk anymore really but I like to have fun.
most of my friends are pretty tame also but still like to have fun, like me.
HOWEVER–my FI’s sisters are 2 of the bridesmaids. the oldest one is 10 yrs older than me (40) and they are both VERY conservative. however, they want to be supportive and so they have said they are going to participate. . .but i don’t think either of them have ever gone to a bar in their lives!! i am so worried they are going to be shocked and think I am such a heathen.
and then there is the issue of cultural differences; i like all kinds of music but I am pretty sure some of my cousins only like hip hop and R&B. . .we are a diverse mix of people and I am worried that my Maid/Matron of Honor, who is Asian and has similar (eclectic) taste as me, will pick a club that my cousins will think is weird. . .
ahh i am stressing over this! should we just get pizza and mix some drinks in and call it a night? do you think my random assortment of women can manage to have a fun night out? any suggestions?
Post # 3
anybody else have a similar situation? or am I the only one with a weird assortment of friends? 🙁
Post # 4
@hellorebecca: Just go for it and let loose. You don’t sound like a crazy party girl anyway, so I can’t see how things would get out of hand. It’s a bachelorette party so you’re supposed to have a little wild fun 😉 You’ll all be so excited that I think you could have fun just about anywhere you might go. Stop stressing 🙂
Post # 5
I have a weird assortment of friends, but none of the ones who are coming to the bachelorette party are so conservative that they’d be offended, so not quite the same situation. I think you are right to be concerned about the 2 sisters, but if they know from the beginning that they’ll be going to a bar, then its their choice. I think you might want to tell your Maid/Matron of Honor to keep it on the tame side for them. Who knows, they might have a blast. And I wouldn’t worry about your cousins. Generally, if music has a beat, you can still dance to it, even if its not your favorite type of music.
Post # 6
@arclee, @mrs.peters.to.be: that is what I needed to hear. . .i tried to get the sisters not to come but they insisted they want to be supportive. so it’s their choice, right? i just told my Maid/Matron of Honor not to do any peenie ‘accessories’. 🙂
i just need to relax and trust her and remember that all my friends/cousins/etc don’t HAVE to like going to the exact same places on their own time, but they are gonna be there that night to celebrate me!
Post # 7
I would hope that they have been exposed to life beyond a very sheltered conservative bubble. If they have, it shouldn’t be a problem. I think that as long as there aren’t any strippers and you’re not forcing them to do any crazy dares they aren’t comfortable with, that it should be fine. Maybe you could start the night off with something more tame at home (like junk food and a chick flick to get ready to together?) to ease them in?
Post # 8
we’re going to dinner and then out dancing for mine. i have a friend that’s not into the bar scene at all (which i’m completely fine with). so she’s just coming for dinner and the chill out portion between dinner and dancing.
i wouldn’t worry about it. sit back and have fun!