Post # 1
My bach party is coming up this weekend *woohoo!* but I’m not sure how the whole thing goes down. I’ve only been to one bparty, and I was the Dirty Delete bridesmaid so the other girls covered my hotel and stuff as a thank you. I just brought a small gift for my girlfriend getting married.
So, (wow, this is a dumb question, I feel like I should know these things):
-is it common for people to bring gifts for the bride (me)?
-do you promptly send mailed thank yous for the these gifts of just thank in person?
-do I thank my MOHs with gifts for hosting/arranging the bparty?
-if I do, do I give them to them in front of everyone or is a separate thank-you type of present for another day?
Thanks In Advance for advice. With all the wedding, planning, and party etiquette, I sometimes get a bit mixed and I want to make sure I’m being polite and following the ‘rules.’
Post # 3
I’ve been to several bachelorette parties. Mainly, gifts were only given to the bride was when it was a combination bridal shower/bachelorette sort of thing. Otherwise, you just help pay for the special lady’s shots, dinner, etc. If they do bring you gifts, however, I’d either send them a thank you card or make a note of it in the typical wedding thank you send-out.
As for gifts for the hostess(es), it isn’t necessary. I assume she’s in your bridal party & most women give their bridal party members gifts. You could certainly give her a little something extra, but you don’t need to give her something specifically for throwing the party. The bachelorette party is all about celebrating your last days of being engaged. Attendees are expected to spoil you a little.
Post # 4
@Mouse217: Thank you for the advice!
I think a few girls were thinking of bringing things, even though it’s a dinner/drinking/dancing party. I’ll be sure to send them cards, and get a card for the MOHs. I do plan to get them+make them gifts to give them at the rehearsal dinner, so I’ll just be sure to include another thank you re: the bach in the letter I write for each of them.
Post # 5
I had girls bring gifts to our bachelorette weekend even though I totally didn’t expect them to.
I just thanked in person for those. But for the shower gifts I promptly sent out thank you cards.
My Maid/Matron of Honor threw me a lingerie shower and I had my SIL and DH’s family throw me showers and I got them all a little something as a thank you for hosting those events for me.
And I gave them to them when we were alone versus in front of everyone. Most times before everyone got there, or after they left.
Post # 6
@indibee: That sounds like a great plan to me!
Post # 7
I was under the impression that the ‘gifts’ to be given to the bride at the Bachelorette party was that she didn’t have to pay for anything (whether it’s dinner, drinks, etc.). I think sending out thank yous (mine is going to be 3 weeks before my wedding) would be a bit odd for me since it’s just my Bridal Party and a couple close members of my family,but it might make sense for you if it’s this far in advance and you don’t see people too often. Honestly, I think the gift to the BMs (and even a thank you at the rehersal dinner if you feel that this would be appropriate OR even a very, very brief thank you to your BMs during your toast at the wedding for everything they’ve done) would be appropriate too.
Post # 8
The only “gifts” I received at my bach were like party favors. My girls had t-shirts made for us to wear, and bought me a sash, a boa, cups, glow sticks, etc. They put them in a big bag and wrapped it all up, so it was super cute and fun to open in the limo!
Post # 9
In my area it’s pretty much a given that there will be gifts given at a bachelorette party (lingerie, pjs, bath & body, “special” gifts, etc). Thank you cards are not usualy expected for bach gifts, since you already sent one for the shower and will for the wedding and gifts are opened in front of everyone with a verbal thank you. Hostess gifts are also not given, but maybe a card sent later just thanking the host(s) for a great night.
Post # 10
At my bachelorette, girls brought lingerie, sex toys/games, body lotions, etc.
I thanked them there, and did not send thank you notes. I sent thank you notes only for shower gifts and I will of course for wedding gifts.
After your party tell us how it went!
Post # 11
@Mrs.tobe: Thanks. I think alone is nice, and it saves hauling one more thing around on the day of an event.
@cmvmph: I never thought of gifts for a bach party either, but my MOHs have ahd a few people ask if there was a theme to the gifts or if they should just do whatever they like. New to me, so thanks for your advice!
@pinkandsparkly: Fun that they wrapped it all up as a surprise! I know they’ve gotten little favor bags for all the girls coming and beads and sashes and things like that, but if I receive more ‘gift-like’ gifts, then I’ll send a note. I think that will be my compromise 🙂
@Vegas Pug: I think that’s the type of gift that some of the girls were thinking, since a Bridesmaid or Best Man asked for my sizes just a while ago.
@Evie19: Seems like the consensus is verbal thank yous count well enough for b-parties 🙂 I will for sure have to update when Sunday rolls around. I do know that I’m getting a surprise limo, lol. My sweet Maid/Matron of Honor accidentally included me on her text to the girls attending re: contributing towards a limo and champagne as a surprise. She’s too nice! I’m a pretty simple gal, so I have a feeling that I’m going to feel so spoiled and be thanking everyone all night long! Hehe.
Post # 12
@indibee: You deserve it!! Enjoy every minute. 🙂
Post # 13
@Evie19: Aw, thank you!
Bach party was a success! 🙂 Hahah. My abs and legs hurt from dancing and laughing all night, but it was too fun. My MtOH was just too sweet and spoiled me like crazy…she and Maid/Matron of Honor split my dinner, and once we got to all the different bars (in our awesome party bus, woohoo!) people bought us shots and bought our beads and suckers. We made some money! 🙂 It was a blast, and I also got a few nighties and such from some of the gals that came. It was a hoot opening THOSE at the restaurant, lol.