(Closed) Bachelorette party gifts…for the bride? For the hosts? Advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I’ve been to several bachelorette parties. Mainly, gifts were only given to the bride was when it was a combination bridal shower/bachelorette sort of thing. Otherwise, you just help pay for the special lady’s shots, dinner, etc. If they do bring you gifts, however, I’d either send them a thank you card or make a note of it in the typical wedding thank you send-out.

As for gifts for the hostess(es), it isn’t necessary. I assume she’s in your bridal party & most women give their bridal party members gifts. You could certainly give her a little something extra, but you don’t need to give her something specifically for throwing the party. The bachelorette party is all about celebrating your last days of being engaged. Attendees are expected to spoil you a little. Wink

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had girls bring gifts to our bachelorette weekend even though I totally didn’t expect them to.

I just thanked in person for those. But for the shower gifts I promptly sent out thank you cards.

My Maid/Matron of Honor threw me a lingerie shower and I had my SIL and DH’s family throw me showers and I got them all a little something as a thank you for hosting those events for me.

And I gave them to them when we were alone versus in front of everyone. Most times before everyone got there, or after they left.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

@indibee: That sounds like a great plan to me!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was under the impression that the ‘gifts’ to be given to the bride at the Bachelorette party was that she didn’t have to pay for anything (whether it’s dinner, drinks, etc.). I think sending out thank yous (mine is going to be 3 weeks before my wedding) would be a bit odd for me since it’s just my Bridal Party and a couple close members of my family,but it might make sense for you if it’s this far in advance and you don’t see people too often. Honestly, I think the gift to the BMs (and even a thank you at the rehersal dinner if you feel that this would be appropriate OR even a very, very brief thank you to your BMs during your toast at the wedding for everything they’ve done) would be appropriate too.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

The only “gifts” I received at my bach were like party favors. My girls had t-shirts made for us to wear, and bought me a sash, a boa, cups, glow sticks, etc. They put them in a big bag and wrapped it all up, so it was super cute and fun to open in the limo!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

In my area it’s pretty much a given that there will be gifts given at a bachelorette party (lingerie, pjs, bath & body, “special” gifts, etc).  Thank you cards are not usualy expected for bach gifts, since you already sent one for the shower and will for the wedding and gifts are opened in front of everyone with a verbal thank you.  Hostess gifts are also not given, but maybe a card sent later just thanking the host(s) for a great night. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

At my bachelorette, girls brought lingerie, sex toys/games, body lotions, etc.

I thanked them there, and did not send thank you notes. I sent thank you notes only for shower gifts and I will of course for wedding gifts.

After your party tell us how it went!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@indibee: You deserve it!! Enjoy every minute. πŸ™‚

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