Post # 1
One of my BMs is planning my bachelorette party in Vegas (and I’m totally greatful that she has undertaken such a big planning task). She had just sent an evite to some of the girls already, namely the rest of the bridal party AND some of HER friends (a few girls that I know but aren’t close enough to to invite to our wedding and a girl that I don’t even know at all!). It just feels kind of odd to me as I almost feel obligated to invite these girls to my wedding now and I don’t even understand why she would even invite a girl who I’ve never met?!
Am I being a Bridezilla for thinking that this is kind of weird? Do people have bachelorette parties with people outside of the people on your wedding guest list? I just feel like this is more of an All Girls Trip to Vegas and not my bachelorette party at all. I said something to her about not consulting me about the guest list before sending out the email and she called me a "princess". Am I right to feel annoyed by all of this?!!?
Post # 3
Yes – but… Just make it clear to her that these girls aren’t on the wedding guest list. And ask that she clears it with this group. If your only concern is it will put you in an awkward position – just put it back on her. Maybe she didn’t think it through all the way and doesn’t get it.
Post # 4
that’s a little weird to me — it makes it seem like she’s doing this not as a bachelorette party, but as an excuse to party in vegas with her friends. just my take on the situation.
i asked my moh to refrain from inviting people to my girls weekend until i found out the exact guest list, to avoid having feelings hurt if people got an invite to the weekend but not to the wedding. i just think it’s a little strange to be invited to a wedding-related event like a bachelorette party or shower but not to the actual wedding.
there’s nothing you can really do about it now since these girls are already invited to vegas, but i would just give her the names of all the girls who you want to be there and try to make the best of it! but i agree with gaudior — make sure that she’s upfront with the girls who aren’t invited to the wedding.