Post # 1
So my Maid/Matron of Honor has been planning my Bachelorette party, and it didn’t really fit me at all so I thought I would take charge of booking the room. (she wanted us all to stay at a Days Inn, I was hoping for something a little more specail) My Bridesmaids are all either in college or recently graduated so I know money is tight for us all. I don’t want to put a burden on anyone to attend. To stay at the days in it would cost each person $30. Is $50 too much to ask each girl to pitch in for a suite? (I am willing to cover the difference of about $150) On top of the room the cost of food and drinks would need to be factored in. Since it would cost each person $30 to stay at the Days Inn, in my mind an extra $20 for a really nice room isn’t a big deal. Am I out of line?
Post # 3
The extra $ is totally worth it. I once paid about $300 for a house for the weekend for a bach party. Real friends won’t care 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with futuremrse, I think the extra $20 is not a lot and totally worth it. 🙂
Post # 5
I don’t think so, but it really depends on financial status. $20 is a lot of money to some college students.
Post # 6
How old are your friends and their money situation?
Are you all going out of town? I think either $30 or $50 is really cheap for a hotel room.
Post # 7
If you give ample notice than I think $50 is reasonable. We got a suite for my bachelorette party and I ended up paying $120 whereas the other girls paid $45 each. Most of the girls who came for my party are students and although it was tight they managed it because they had a couple of months notice.
Post # 8
@PinkMagnolia: We are all 21 and up, we’re going to Canada for the night so its out of town but only about 45 min away. I would pay the difference for the room, if they all pay $50 its only like $110 difference for a two room suite. (there are 6 bridesmaids attending) Most are just graduating college so will be unemployed, some are still in school.
Post # 9
@west.coast.blonde: Thats a great idea to give a couple months notice! Thank you! 🙂
Post # 10
As a college student I think $50 is a lot, especially since they’ll need to buy food and drinks all weekend as well. As a college student planning a wedding, I couldn’t swing it.
Post # 11
I know back in the day that to pay $50+ would be a huge stretch for me and my friends. Maybe go with the cheaper room since hopefully you will only be sleeping and getting ready there? That way there will be more funds for booze. 😉
Post # 12
I’m in college and I’d be uncomfortable with spending $50 for a hotel room, but I suppose I’d still do it
Post # 13
while i would also enjoy the nicer suite, i think that it may come across as a bit ungrateful if you take over the planning from your Maid/Matron of Honor. remember, a fancy bachelorette certainly isn’t a requirement, and i think it would be more important to have your girls be comfortable and happy then stretched and a bit resentful. besides, you really won’t be in the room that much anyway…and you will have your girls with you, which is the most important thing!
Post # 14
I think you have to accept what they are willing to host. It is hurtful to tell them that what they have planned isn’t ‘enough’.
$50 to somoene with no job is a lot of money. Especially since it isn’t just $50. Its $50 + food and drinks. I think it is a lot to expect an out of town Bridal Party when the guests are unemployed students.