Post # 1
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Blushing bee
One of my bridesmaids asked me yesterday what I want out of my bachelorette party. I was completely caught off guard. My stance on the situation from day one has been, “Absolutely no strippers”. I’d like to keep it classy ladies (no offense to anyone who’s into that sort of thing). Anywho, I stuttered for a second and said to her that I have no idea. I’m not a big drinker so I’m not really looking forward to bar hopping all night long and getting sloshed. I’d prefer to remember my bachelorette party the next day, ya know?
So bees, what I’m getting at is: What could we do besides bar hop?
If you’ve already had your bachelorette party please help me with some ideas. I don’t want to run the show but I definitely don’t want to end up doing something that I’ll be dreading all night. I still want to dress up and have fun with my girls but I just don’t want to do the strip club, bar scene, thing.
Spa day? Wine tasting? Help?!?!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
How about spa during the day….casino at night, if there is one near you?
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I’d like to make a mini-vacation out of mine if everyone can afford it (I’d help with costs): One or two nights in a nice hotel, spa day, and at night watching chick flicks. No idea if there’ll be alcohol- my Maid/Matron of Honor is Mormon, and I’d hate for her to feel left out if she chooses not to drink. So probably we’ll just mix virgin drinks. If all else fails, I’m perfectly okay with having a mudslide and wings at Applebee’s or something, and then a sleepover. (I feel like such a high schooler)
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@smrlovingrl: you could do the spa, or bowling, if there is a Dave and busters near you that’s a good spot.
Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
I think my poor BMs are trying to figure this out, too. I’m not a huge drinker, and I don’t want strippers or penis things or lingerie. Plus, one of my girls is only 16, and I want her to be able to do SOMETHING with us.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
@vorpalette: I have given my girls the same guidelines. I have no idea what they have come up with though. All I know is the date and time.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
Get dressed up, go to dinner, maybe a wine tasting after then do something fun like bowling where people can drink if they want or if not!
I went to a bowling bachelorette and it was so much fun!
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
For mine we did a backyard BBQ and games. It was a lot of fun just a small group getting together. We will be doing the same for my friend’s bach party.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I love the mini-vacation idea that @ForeverBirds suggested. That’s exactly what I am planning to do 
My maid-of-honor Nina who I take a “romantical vacation” with once a year (we use our flight/hotel point from work & pick a destination to catch up since she lives in LA & I live in Chicago) went skiing in Tahoe 2 yrs ago & wound up at this super rad hot springs place that we found out about based on the recommendation of hotel staff. That weekend we agreed that we will have to return for a girls weekend as a bachelorette event when whichever of us gets engaged first. I’m the first so Tahoe it is!
We figure we can rent a house for a weekend really inexpensively on AirBNB or HomeAway on a non-holiday weekend next winter (wedding 5/14) & everyone who can make it can come. We can do girly things at the house (paint nails, watch movies, drink cocktails, grill out), anyone who wants to ski can ski, people who aren’t skiers can do a million other winter activities & we will all have to go to the hot springs! No strippers. I’m envisioning this as family-friendly enough that if my mom wanted to join us (and Chad’s mom too) that it would be just fine.
My bridal party is pretty far-flung across the country (Sacramento, LA, Austin, New York City, Chicago) so there’s really no convenient location which is why mini-vacation appeals to me as an idea. My two sisters are students so I will def use my flight points to bring them to Tahoe from LA and NYC and everyone else has good professional jobs so if we book far enough in advance it should not be a problem for everyone who is able to make it to get there.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
Bees, thank you all for your suggestions. One of my bridesmaids is only 18 so I want to make sure that she is able to be included in most, if not, all of what we do. I want it to be low-key but not boring. Bowling could be fun, but I don’t know how well we would all do in little black dresses (or blue, red, green, etc. you get the point). I definitely want to get all dolled up with my girls because we never really do that. Oh…I am so indecisive. I don’t know what to do.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
My girlfriends and I are probably going to do Cirque du Soleil show and dinner. I’m not a bar person at all.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@dewingedpixie: oh man what a great idea. Cirque du Soleil is *amazing!!*
@smlovingrl: you could def take an 18 yr old to Cirque. And it would be a great dress up with the girls type idea!
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
I felt the same way and actually said don’t even have a bachelorette party for me. But the girls, well half of them, insisted. So my 2 ideas were either the wineries out east ( I don’t even drink wine) but they have live music, picnic grounds, etc. Or a cooking class. There’s a Sur La Table near us that has classes. We wound up picking one winery that has music and we’re going to do that during the day, bring a bunch of food and just hang out and then go to dinner at night at Benihana. A few other girls will be coming to dinner. My party is Saturday. Can’t wait. Do you like to cook? The cooking class could be fun or how about something crafty like a pottery class and then dinner? A spa day was also in the running but could become pricey.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
Some ideas off the top of my head:
Spa/Hammam/Banya
Bowling
Amusement park
Casino
Cooking class
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
@smrlovingrl: my bach was a few of my close friends and i going out to dinner. we went to this hip resturant that has a cool, funky vibe to it. we sort of dressed up. it was really fun and exactly what i wanted.