Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I guess this is the sexist in me coming out, but I’m attending a bachelorette weekend that is also being attended by the bride’s bridesman, and can’t help but feeling a little robbed of the full bachelorette experience. I know this isn’t my party, so I shouldn’t care, but there is a large portion of conversations that occur in a girls-only situation that I know we’ll all feel uncomfortable with having with a male present. I guess that being busy and married, we now take so few weekends with just our girlfriends only, and I’m a bit bummed that our conversations will have to be a bit… well… appropriate for a male audience. I guess bachelorette parties are one of the rare times where we can all be free of a male opinion, so by inviting a man, it kind of takes that whole aspect away. Sometimes I just don’t care to hear a male opinion or perspective, I guess!
What do you think? Do you have a bridesman? Is he invited to your bachelorette party?
Post # 3
Hmm… who is he? I have in my life had a few guy friends who are "one of the girls" and we didn’t really have to censor ourselves in front of him. I know I’d prefer girls-only to really be girls-only, but I think I could make an exception.
Post # 4
Hm, depends. One of my best friends is a guy I’ve known since 4th grade and he’s standing up as a Groomsmen in our wedding. Maybe he technically should be on my side but for the sake of symmetry, we’re just counting him as a Groomsmen. I definitely thought I’d be inviting him to my bachelorette, because he’s one of my closest friends and he’s been there for me longer than ALL of my girlfriends. We definitely have a very non-censored relationship, there’s not a lot I would tell my girlfriends but not him.
But you have a good point that I hadn’t thought about! The girls attending might definitely be a little uncomfortable or disappointed having a guy at a party meant for the ladies, no matter how close I am with him. You’ve given me some food for thought, haha. I think it’s definitely fair to feel that way.
You’ll still have a great time at the party I hope!
Post # 5
Why do people only talk about sex during bachlorette parties? Or think it is an excuse to get all ‘sex and the city". I went the the party of this girl 9friend of a friend who was in her wedding) who was so conservative and NEVER talked about sex or anything … then all of a sudden she has a penis on her head and is talking like a sailor. It all seems so fake to me. If you would talk about sex on a normal basis having a guy there shouldn’t be a problem. If you are only talking sex because it’s a bachlorette party-I don’t understand that. I am having a bridesman in my wedding-he’s invited to all festivities-and no one is acting silly about conversations that haven’t happend yet. You might not talk about sex at all.