Post # 1
I’m planning my friend (J) bachelorette party that is this Thursday. All along I’ve been planning for only the bridal party & a few other close friends of J. I was told today by the bridesmaids that J’s mom wants to go. Do moms go to those? J’s mom also went to her DIL (J’s brother’s wife) bachelorette party & it was awkward due to some personal questions she asked. I haven’t talked to J about it yet but we all know her & she will be embarrased to have her mom there but she does love her mom a lot so she wouldn’t want to hurt her feelings.
Do I talk to the bride’s mom? What do I say?
Post # 3
I would ask the bride. I know I would def not want my mom at my bachelorette party…akward!!!!!
Post # 4
Yes, ask the bride. At my sister’s we had my mom and the mom’s of two of the other girls attending. It definitely depends.
Post # 5
For some reason it seems to have become a bit of a tradition back in my hometown for the moms (of both the B&G) to be invited to the initial gathering and dinner portion of the evening, before leaving the younger women to bar-hop. I don’t really get it and my mom would have rather died than attend mine, but if it’s a tradition I can’t really say anything. (I’m actually helping plan my step-sister’s bachelorette right now and I’m bracing myself for awkwardness of having her mom attend the lingerie shower part of the evening!)
Bottom line though, it’s whatever the bride wants. If she’s going to be embarrassed to have her mom there, then I wouldn’t do it, even if her mom is going to be a little hurt. Maybe ask her mom if she’d like to arrange to have a mani/pedi day with the bride earlier in the day? Sort of a “pampering before the party” thing?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
A schoolfriend had her hen do somewhen in early december and both MOB and MOG were there for the first part (cocktail crash course :3), there were about 40-50% older women but they’d all arranged to go home while the younger folk went clubbing.
I guess it just depends on the nature of the party, as well as personal preferance.
Post # 7
… no …
Didn’t you get a list from the bride of who to invite?
Post # 8
This is a question for the bride! I did not want the mothers invited to mine, just because that’s not the kind of relationship I have with my mom. She’s my mom, not my friend. However, I’ve planned friends’ parties and they were adament that they wanted their mom invited. It’s really an individual choice. Ask her.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Ask the bride but tell her you will take the fall for not inviting mom so the bride can have a clear conscience. A polite conversation with mom privately may also go over well if you feel comfortable enough talking to her. I would let her know that while you are aware that Mom knows how to have a good time, you and Bride’s friends don’t want to inadvertently offend her or embarass the Bride in front of her mother.
Post # 10
I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a bride’s mom being invited to a bachelorette party…and it seems strange that the mom would want to go! Definitely ask the bride.
Post # 11
Definitely ask – I’ve seen more moms at bachelorette parties lately, but my mom (and we’re super close!) said dear god no way! Hahah. She’s more than content to stay in and not see the weirdness go down (which I agree with!) but I do know other moms who want in. Totally depends!
Post # 12
Update: The mom ended up deciding not to go. I asked her MOH to talk with J & then J talked with her mom. So it all worked out & I don’t think anyone’s feelings were hurt. 🙂
Post # 13
You probably shouldn’t invite moms. I was just at a bachelorette/lingerie party this weekend and the bride’s mom was there. She didn’t laught at the things that we were laughing at and had a straight (almost disapproving) face when the sex talk came up. I even sometimes felt guilty laughing because she was there. I think it’s more fun without mothers.
Post # 14
I think it really depends on the bride & mom.
Honestly, BOTH my Mother-In-Law and mom are very much welcome at my ‘lette! They have GREAT personalities and find humor in everything riskay.. ive visited sex shops with both of them.
Post # 15
DEFINITELY ASK THE BRIDE!
I have friends who would be devastated if their mother missed out.
I love my (critical and judgmental) mother VERY MUCH but I would rather be boiled alive than have her at my bachelorette party.
Post # 16
@LammyLou14: Haha I didn’t invite her! She sort of invited herself but then she ended up deciding it was best she not attend 🙂