(Closed) Bachelorette party…. is the bride's mom invited?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3583 posts
Sugar bee

I would ask the bride. I know I would def not want my mom at my bachelorette party…akward!!!!!

Post # 4
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, ask the bride. At my sister’s we had my mom and the mom’s of two of the other girls attending. It definitely depends.

Post # 5
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For some reason it seems to have become a bit of a tradition back in my hometown for the moms (of both the B&G) to be invited to the initial gathering and dinner portion of the evening, before leaving the younger women to bar-hop.  I don’t really get it and my mom would have rather died than attend mine, but if it’s a tradition I can’t really say anything.  (I’m actually helping plan my step-sister’s bachelorette right now and I’m bracing myself for awkwardness of having her mom attend the lingerie shower part of the evening!)

Bottom line though, it’s whatever the bride wants.  If she’s going to be embarrassed to have her mom there, then I wouldn’t do it, even if her mom is going to be a little hurt.  Maybe ask her mom if she’d like to arrange to have a mani/pedi day with the bride earlier in the day?  Sort of a “pampering before the party” thing?

Post # 6
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

A schoolfriend had her hen do somewhen in early december and both MOB and MOG were there for the first part (cocktail crash course :3), there were about 40-50% older women but they’d all arranged to go home while the younger folk went clubbing.


I guess it just depends on the nature of the party, as well as personal preferance.

Post # 7
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

… no …

Didn’t you get a list from the bride of who to invite?

Post # 8
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

This is a question for the bride!  I did not want the mothers invited to mine, just because that’s not the kind of relationship I have with my mom.  She’s my mom, not my friend.  However, I’ve planned friends’ parties and they were adament that they wanted their mom invited.  It’s really an individual choice.  Ask her.

Post # 9
6592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Ask the bride but tell her you will take the fall for not inviting mom so the bride can have a clear conscience.  A polite conversation with mom privately may also go over well if you feel comfortable enough talking to her.  I would let her know that while you are aware that Mom knows how to have a good time, you and Bride’s friends don’t want to inadvertently offend her or embarass the Bride in front of her mother.

Post # 10
6 posts

I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a bride’s mom being invited to a bachelorette party…and it seems strange that the mom would want to go! Definitely ask the bride. 

Post # 11
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Definitely ask – I’ve seen more moms at bachelorette parties lately, but my mom (and we’re super close!) said dear god no way! Hahah. She’s more than content to stay in and not see the weirdness go down (which I agree with!) but I do know other moms who want in. Totally depends!

Post # 13
35 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

You probably shouldn’t invite moms. I was just at a bachelorette/lingerie party this weekend and the bride’s mom was there. She didn’t laught at the things that we were laughing at and had a straight (almost disapproving) face when the sex talk came up. I even sometimes felt guilty laughing because she was there. I think it’s more fun without mothers.

Post # 14
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it really depends on the bride & mom.

Honestly, BOTH my Mother-In-Law and mom are very much welcome at my ‘lette! They have GREAT personalities and find humor in everything riskay.. ive visited sex shops with both of them.

Post # 15
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


I have friends who would be devastated if their mother missed out.

I love my (critical and judgmental) mother VERY MUCH but I would rather be boiled alive than have her at my bachelorette party.

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