Post # 1
Sorry if this doesn’t make sense, I just have to vent about this quick. Ok, my Maid/Matron of Honor and I were talking about what to do for my bachelorette party and she thinks it would be nice for just me and her to go away for the weekend somewhere. Which was ok with me since my other 2 BMs are my cousins still under 21. The issue is, since it’s only the 2 of us, I think the only thing she plans on paying for is the hotel (not having help from other BMs) because she doesn’t have a lot of money and I can’t imagine her paying for food or anything like that. Plus she was cringing when we looked up hotel rates. And I can’t afford to go on another trip where I would have to pay for food, drinks, activities, etc. that close to my wedding and honeymoon. I’ve mentioned going out in a nearby city and staying just overnight in a hotel instead so it would be (obviously) cheaper than planning things to do for an entire weekend.
One of my other friends who is not a Bridesmaid or Best Man thinks this is weird and she wants to throw me a separate bachelorette party and says I shouldn’t have to pay for a thing since it’s supossed to be my party. The 2 of these friends aren’t really fond of each other, so including them both in something is not possible.
What did everyone else do for theirs or what are you planning to do??
Post # 3
my friends are throwing me one; we are definitely going to bar-hop woo-hoo its new york city what else can you do my last fun night out; they are giving me a list of things to do I can only imagine what it is but no doubt it’ll be fun!
Post # 4
Why don’t you just have two? But make sure you let your Maid/Matron of Honor know what was offered (so she isn’t surprised when she finds out about it).
Post # 5
Do you have other friends that would attend? Just because your friends aren’t in your wedding party doesn’t mean they shouldn’t come celebrate your last days as a single woman! If you have a lot of girlfriends that want to throw you a party then I would tell your Maid/Matron of Honor that you would rather have a party back home so that all of your other friends can participate. This way she doesn’t have to go out of her comfort zone to buy everything for you solo and you get your way too.
Post # 6
That’s kind of tough. So if this second friend threw you something, who else would come? Would it be 2 parties each with you and one friend? Is it possible the second friend is doing this, at least in part, because she doens’t like the Maid/Matron of Honor, and is some way sticking a jealous thorn in her because she isn’t MOH? If so, I’m not sure I’d be on board with that. Also, if they don’t get along, did friend #2 not enter the bach party picture until she offered to pay for one?
I can’t blame your Maid/Matron of Honor for not wanting to pay for weekend Out of Town by herself. And unlike the other friend, she has bridal party expenses. I like your idea of doing something closer to home, that is less expensive. But I don’t like that your other friend, thinks that’s weird. I think she is putting your Maid/Matron of Honor in a tough spot.
I would do whatever your Maid/Matron of Honor can afford, with her. I f you want to also hang out with the other firend, so there are no hard feelings, great. BUt I wouldn’t go Out of Town with her. It’s likely to make your Maid/Matron of Honor feel bad.