(Closed) Bachelorette party MOH needing HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly, $120 would be too much for me to attend. I think doing something where everyone pays for their own drinks (except the bride of course) would make more sense for people on a budget. That way if Bridesmaid #1 only has two glasses of wine but BM#2 has two bottles, they aren’t paying the same amount. The limo would be nice but it is a bit extravagant. It might be better to borrow a friends nicer car and have someone drive you around. There are ways to cut down on cost without making it less fun.

I think it’s a great idea and it sounds really fun but I wouldn’t be able to spend that kind of money even on a best friends wedding. It doesn’t really matter how much is spent, just as long as the bride gets to make fun memories (or lack therof) with her best girlfriends.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I personally don’t think that’s too much at all, but bach parties I have been to have been more than that.  Can you just do something where you go out near your hometown or general area?  Obviously that’s not what you (and potentially the bride) wanted, but it looks like other people might not be involved otherwise :/

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It depends on your crowd.  A few years ago I helped host a friends bacholerette party and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man hosting it and I never could have afforded it!  Now I am in the financial position to do that…  but I probably could come up with better uses of my money.  Officially you guys are throwing the party and if your crowd can’t afford what the bride wants then you can’t and should consider other plans.  

Post # 8
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sweetiepie89:  I don’t think it’s too much, personally, for what you are getting.  Those that can’t afford, just won’t go.  It sucks, but at the end of the day, you really can’t please everyone.

I wanted to do a wine tasing too, and ours was WAY more than that, just for a day trip, minus the car/driver!  I think that’s a heck of a deal that you found!

Post # 9
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Everyone has different budgets.  If people are telling you its too much, then its too much and needs to re-tooled.

Someone will likely need to stay sober no matter what, or at least control their intake.  Could one person volunteer to do that and you rent a van and keep it local?

Post # 10
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012
Post # 11
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Long story short – you cannot force people to pay money if they cannot afford it. DO NOT guilt people to break their budgets – that is a sure-fire way to ruin friendships (even friendships between the bride and her bridesmaids, if you aren’t good friends with them). If they’re telling you it’s too much, then it’s too much. You likely make more money than them, or have fewer financial committments, or are just coming from a different perspective. They’re not bad friends / bridesmaids just because they’re asking you to plan a less expensive route.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

As a guest, I would not pay that for a bachelorette party.  As a bridesmaid…maybe, but I wouldn’t be very happy about it.  As others have stated, everyone’s financial status and priorities are different.  No matter what you think they should be able to pay, if someone is saying she can’t, then she can’t.  I’m sorry to say, that if you go through with it, you are oging to end up with a really small group for your best friend’s party.

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