(Closed) Bachelorette Party near Christmas… The Bride's turning me into a grinch.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Wow! I don’t have any words to give you to help with this bridezilla! Honestly, I have the feeling that no matter what any of you do or how much you bend over backwards you are still going to be in the wrong in her mind. Chances are this friendship won’t go much farther…sounds pretty one-sided already so I guess it’s up to you as to how much or how long you will put up with it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

She sounds like a nightmare including with her mother. I say all of you get on the same page, call her tell you don’t appreciate how you been being treated. Name ever sacrifice you guys have made to be in wedding. It is absolutly ridiclous that you even change the date for the party.

Since she so intent on planning this party let her. Let me tell you prior experience if she is too far gone into bridezilla mode. If the friendship get wrecked it’s her fault and you done all you could do. She been treating all of you horridly. I have one friend who I known since kindergarten and we also no longer speak because of her wedding. It’s really sad.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. She is completely out of line.

I have a friend who scheduled her wedding for December 29th, and I thought that one was inconveniently close to Christmas! I think she needs a reality check, and if that doesn’t get through to her, I think I’d bow out.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

YIKES. She is wayyyyyy way down the Bridezilla rabbit hole. You sound like a wonderful friend to keep trying to make it work after all you’ve been “required” to do by the bride. Honestly, you and the other bm’s have been treated pretty horribly. If she did not expect some of these problems to occur having her wedding the day after Christmas, then I don’t think she’ll be able to have a reality check… she already let the reality train de-rail at the selfish stop!

I think your plan of showing her what you tried to do may be about the only thing you could try. Hard evidence of why it wont work and that you really tried may give her a bit of a shake, but I just don’t want you to hold your breath that it will solve the problems 🙁 I’m sorry you’re going through this with a friend.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would quit the Maid/Matron of Honor position. I don’t take kindly to people treating me like that

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

At some point, you have to take a stand, and I get loving someone and wanting them to be happy, but there’s a line where you leave reality and enter foggy tantrum filled other world where you are at the mercy of the whimmiest of whims…..honey, you’re there.  I have a hard time with brides that book closely to holidays, if they’re easy going about it and understand that for some of us, family is first, great!  It’s a groovy holiday to do, that I am pleased as punch to attend BUT, it sounds like you’ve got a bride that delights in making people choose between their traditions and her, and choosing wrong incites a tantrum of epic proportions.  I would tell her I’m quite finished with this rude and selfish behavior, and since she was gouache enough to mention what she’s spending on this event, you might want to urge her to start acting like a hostess befitting such an occasion, the ceremony is for the bride and groom, the reception is for the guests, your friend needs a hard lesson now, less she embarass herself on her wedding day.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

OMG!  What a crazy bridezilla!  I am getting married on NYE and my bachellorette party is Dec. 8th, I would rather not put my friends in an imposition by having it closer to my wedding.  Even though she may not value the holidays, a lot of other people do!  I know it is my favorite time of the year!  I wish I had advice, but I´d say definitely bring the evidence, because it is really hard to argue with proof.  So sorry you´re going through this!  Hopefully you guys remain friends!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well, you’re way better than me! I wouldnt let someone change my family plans at Christmas so they can have their “perfect day” when they don’t respect what I’ve done for them. Its a 2 way street. Anyway, best of luck! Maybe she will calm down now.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Your dress cost a month’s wages?!  Holy crap!  You are being a great friend to her and she needs to get a clue.  I feel for you…hopefully there will be no more drama before the wedding!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

@notreadyforthis:  You’re being so nice!!!!! I’m glad that it does seem to have gotten through to her at least a little bit. Well I sincerely hope that you and the other BM’s get through this alright. And please… by ALL means… we’d probably all like an update on this costly extravaganza as well ;P

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Are you sure you aren’t secretly being taped for an episode of Bridezilla? 😛 I’m sad to know that your friendship won’t be the same… but as they say (and it’s true), you find out who your real friends (and family!) are through an experience like this!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow. I would step down as a Bridesmaid or Best Man if she’s acting like this. You’re doing your best to organize fun events for her, and she’s treating you like crap. It’s just not acceptable. 

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