(Closed) Bachelor/ette Party Night Before the Wedding??

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That is a horrible idea. LoL.

Just tell him you want to be able to enjoy your wedding and not have him and your entire wedding party hungover. You don’t want to remember your wedding as a day that was miserable because you were hungover. There will always be times to drink and whatnot. This is about you, not the people that are trying to pressure you in to this. I’m sure you will get to party it up at your wedding. Maybe you can have something the weekend before with the people that are able to attend.

And his brother, I assume, is a grown adult. He should be understanding that you don’t want to get trashed before your wedding. And I’m sure he has plenty of friends that he can go out with.

I don’t know what else to suggest. I guess if they do drink, don’t let them sckimp on helping you out. They will feel miserable while having to do things. LoL

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It looks like he’s going out anyway to celebrate with his brother, so why not just do the co-ed party that way you can keep an eye on how much he’s drinking. I know it’s tough, but don’t over think it, just have fun and keep the thought in the back of your head that you need to take it easy. Perhaps the best way to handle it is to start the party earlier than you would normally go out that way you can be home earlier to pass out.

Post # 6
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could you not try and do it the weekend before??

If not..I suggest going out the night after the wedding. It doesn’t matter what it is called, just a time to let loose and have fun!! 

Post # 7
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Depends on well behaved all your friends are 😉

Post # 8
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It seems like you’re resigned to the fact that you will either have a hungover groom or you will have to be a bridezilla and put your foot down. Just try to have fun and go with the flow. It may not be as bad as you think.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Can you maybe have some input into the party and make it a bit more low key?  Perhaps see if someone can host a BBQ or host a party at their house?  At least that way the amount of alcohol purchased can be monitored.  Alternatively, I don’t know what else you can do other than express to your Fiance that you will be very, very hurt if he chooses to treat your wedding so lightly that he would be willing to go out and get trashed the night before, thereby resulting in him being hungover on the actual day.   I know if I expressed it in those terms to my Darling Husband, he would take it a lot more to heart, rather than me saying ‘I don’t want you to get drunk’. 

Good luck!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh and P.S.  your FI’s brother needs to get over himself.  He’s a grown man and needs to realise that the world doesn’t stop for his birthday.  Sorry, I find that kind of behaviour ridiculous, especially from a grown person.  Definitely don’t worry about that aspect, particularly as your Fiance chose the date. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@gumby:Yikes! I agree with you, I would not want to have a big party the night before my wedding. That time should be spent with close family and friends, quietly, relaxing and preparing yourself for the day ahead. All of your planning and time was spent to make this one day special and you want to make sure that you are fully able to enjoy is and not be hungover.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Total horrible idea to have it before the wedding day. Were having ours a MIN of a month out!!!

Id suggest something like that for him (in the hope that as its a month or more before the wedding in hope that as its a month out the out of towners will come two both occasions) and then help to organise a dinner the night before the wedding for the brother.

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