Post # 1
So, my Maid/Matron of Honor has been working hard on planning the bachelorette party. We figured out the dates and where it’s going to be about a month ago, and let everyone know.
One of the girls who is coming (not part of the wedding party) asked my Maid/Matron of Honor yesterday to switch the dates because it’s the weekend of high school graduation. We gave everyone a month’s notice, and no one else cares about graduation, but her. And she sprung this Maid/Matron of Honor the day she was going to call to make reservations.
And the majority has already requested their time off for it. This girl gave us a lot of dates a month ago when she couldn’t make it, and this wasn’t one of the dates.
There’s only 10 of us going, 9 if she doesn’t..
So, my question is should I switch the date and risk having someone I’m more close to not be able to make it? And how bad does this make me look if I don’t switch the date?
Anyone ever have a situation like this?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t change the date at this point. You won’t look bad at all. She had ample opportunity to let your Maid/Matron of Honor know about conflicts.
Post # 4
Bless your heart for even asking, but no, I wouldn’t switch the date.
I know you’d like her to be there, but this party isn’t about her. And it’s way more important for the people you’re closer with to be able to be there.
Smaller bach parties are still totally fun! I decided for mine that I was only inviting my bridemaids and the girls who were doing readings in the wedding because they’re my best girl friends. One of my friends doing a reading got sick the day of mine and had to bail, so we were at seven people instead of eight, and we still had an absolute blast!
Post # 5
Do not change the date.
It doesn’t make you look bad at all. The world doesn’t revolve around that girl’s schedule
Post # 6
Thanks guys! I want to keep it small! I have already told one girl she couldn’t bring someone because I’ve only met them once in my life. I would rather have it small then have a HUGE party and everyone goes and does their on thing
Post # 7
I wouldn’t change the date at this point. I was in a situation where we changed the bachelorette party in the bride, but this was only because no one we invited RSVPed yes, and we could get a couple more attendees if we did it at a later time. If more couldn’t attend I would consider changing the date, but just for one I would say NO.
Post # 8
Is it her high school graduation or for someone she is close with? Did she just find out when graduation was? I suggest that you or your Maid/Matron of Honor cal the other girls going and ask if they can switch dates and do your best to work to find a date that works for everyone. But if people have made plans for other weekends and just can’t switch the date I’d just stick with the current one.
Post # 9
@RunsWithBears: Her cousin in graduating from a school that’s pretty close to the resort that we’re going to. And I have someone from across the country coming, and I’m scared to make them switch the date since they’re planning for these dates and even coming at all.
Post # 10
I would just tell her it is too late to change you plans, the reservations are made. It sounds like you were really flexible when picking the dates and if this were really a huge event to her (the graduation), she could have said something earlier.