Post # 1
So I’m planning my bachelorette party with my Maid/Matron of Honor right now. We are doing a local wine country location so it won’t be too out of control like say Vegas. Well My Future Mother-In-Law invited herself along with her 2 sisters. I am not the type of person to tell someone no, so they are coming. My FSIL’s friend who will be doing my makeup and hair for the wedding also invited herself! What the hell? Who does that?… So my mom was feeling bad about not being included, now she and my two aunts are coming as well!…
Honestly I just wanted my bridal party, close friends and cousins to come but now a whopping 15 people are going to be coming!!
Ughh who invites themselves to a private event?!
I’m just trying to vent here; and please tell me if my feelings are unreasonable :/
Did any of you Bees have any uninvited guests come to your wedding or wedding events? How did it work out?
Post # 3
@Artificial-Sweetener: Tell them you are excited to have them for dinner (or lunch) and then you are going to have a “girls only” evening.
They get to come, but you still get to have your time away.
If they still really want to go to wine country, suggest they go on their own, that weekend or another, but the evening will just be you and your friends, not family (from either side).
Post # 4
I will not allow my mother or Future Mother-In-Law or any of my aunts to come to my bachelorette. You are totally justified in being annoyed that they invited themselves.
Post # 5
@thenewmrsmax: Ya that’s what I was thinking; Fi’s mother is so pushy, there’s no way she will be ok with that. I’m just going to have to bite my tongue on this one :/.
Let’s not forget she asked me “I’m going to be in the delivery room with you right?”. Or the time she asked me if she could come on mine and Fi’s vacation with us and stay in our room… and not pay!
Why meeeee…. LOL
Post # 6
@Artificial-Sweetener: This is probably a good time to set boundaries with her. Just because she asks (repeatedly) doesn’t mean you have to concede. This is something that she should get over. Who wants to see their FDIL get lingerie from her friends? If you don’t stand up to her now, it is likely to be hard to convince her that she has to do what you say when your birthing your first child.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
OP, I think you really need to put your foot down here, and tell her no. This is YOUR party with YOUR friends. The shower is one thing, the bachelorette is another. You have (at least) seven more people coming than you planned. Don’t give her any more details, and just say no (or she WILL end up in the delivery room with you.)