Post # 1
We were planning on having my bachelorette party two weeks before the wedding, do you think that would be bad timing? At first I thought it would be a fun way to relax before the wedding, but now I am thinking that my bridesmaids and friends are already going to have to pay for a hotel, gift, hair, makeup, etc on the day of the wedding and the bachelorette party might seem like more of a financial burden if it is too close to the wedding… how soon before the wedding is too soon? How much time are you leaving between your bachelorette party and your wedding?
Post # 3
a month to 6 weeks out in front is good i think…
either way – have a great time!!
Post # 4
Hey mine is going to be 2 days before so don’t feel bad. Though I should add it’s combined with the Rehersal dinner and we are doing this mostly because we have members of the wedding party coming from over seas and other states so it was the only way to really make sure we were all togheter.
Also – the bachlor/ette party is low key, non-stipper and being held at a huge house with all the people in town.
For us this works, for you something else may 🙂 Whatever you pick will be great!
Post # 5
I’m having mine the night BEFORE! the wedding. I’m just crazy that way. Although we probably wont get too nuts. and the wedding isn’t until 7pm so the girls can sleep in a bit.
Post # 6
Mine will probably be the Thursday before (with the wedding on Saturday). The majority of my bridesmaids are out of town, and there’s no way I could ask them all to make another trip out here beforehand (especially since all the out-of-town ones have toddlers).
Every bachelorette party I have been to has been during the week before the wedding, so I wouldn’t stress out about it. 🙂
Post # 7
Mine is a week before the wedding. I also worry about it being too close to the wedding. However, more than half of my friends and bridesmaids are out of town and that is the date some of them can make it.
I think 2 weeks is good enough plus it will give you time to bond before the wedding!!
Post # 8
Mine is the night before… I KNOW BAD IDEA! But that’s when my friends and my sisters will be around to celebrate!
I just say let everyone know you are concerned about the amount of spending and suggest something low key… we are going out to dinner & a bar (& maybe a male review if my Maid/Matron of Honor gets her way!!!!! lol) but other than that, I’ve made it clear that I’m not interested in a crazy, completely trashed insane night… I’d much rather remember the bachelorette party than not!!! LOL!
Post # 9
Mine is also 2 weeks before due to many other things going on before that. Plus, I’m a teacher and the weekend that school ends is my bachelorette party. Perfect way to end the school year! Haha!
Post # 10
I think mine is going to be an entire month beforehand!! Well, the fiance will still be away at school then and when he gets back we will be wedding planning, honeymoon going and house packing, so I feel like I need some fun before it all gets crazy!
Post # 11
I think it really all depends what you are doing. If you’re doing something local then I don’t think it’s too much of a strain, but if you’re going out of town for your bachelorette party then I could potentially be stressful, both financially and timewise.
My tentative date right now is about 4-5 weeks prior.
Post # 12
mine will be a weekish before… but i told my BMs nothing fancy, perhaps just getting our nails done at the spa or something like that. we’re a pretty low key group. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
nope, dont think its too close to the wedding at all! You’ll have a great time! Most people do about a month before the wedding..mine I think is about 1 month and 1 week before.
Post # 14
As with many others, I had my bachelorette party 2 days before my wedding, as did 2 of my friends. When planning, I really didn’t want it that close because I figured I would be really stressed out and behind (which in all honesty I was a little bit), but in all three instances it worked out very well. All of the out-of-town bridesmaids were able to be there (in which case there were several for each wedding) and for many, it was the first time meeting, rather than at the rehearsal. Have fun!!
Post # 15
Thanks! I think I will keep the date 🙂