Post # 1
The planning for my b-party has been just nuts.
At first there were no dates that worked for everyone (and seriously it’s just 4 people including me!). Then it was going to be the Friday before my half marathon (which I ended up not running due to an injury). Now it’s for this Saturday (weekend before my wedding).
I just heard from one of the gals (my bm and one of my bff’s) that she doesn’t have anyone to watch her daughter. She asked if she could bring her daughter. I felt terrible telling her no, but I *really* want an “adults only” thing (we’re going wine tasting for part of it!).
As of right now it’s in limbo as to whether or not she’s coming. I’m so bummed out.
Post # 3
Kids…. at a bachelorette party? I’ve never heard of that. I’d be PISSED. I feel for you… poor thing.
Post # 4
I’m sorry it’s been so difficult to get all your girls together in one place! 🙁 I totally agree with not wanting the child there; I don’t think it’s necessarily appropriate to have a child at a bachelorett party anyway. Could maybe your parents watch the child, if you and the Bridesmaid or Best Man are really close (if your parents are in the area, I mean)? Or do you have a local college that might have sitters for hire?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t want a child at my bachelorette party either, this is supposed to be the one last night that I get to party with my friends before I get married. Don’t get me wrong, I have 2 kids and don’t have a problem with kids, but you have to draw the line somewhere.
Can you help her find a babysitter? maybe someone you know who will do it for free or cheap, your mom? a sister? A friend’s daughter?
I have a bridesmaid that has not been able to participate in anything, I don’t know if its because of her job or because of her controlling boyfriend though. I have accepted the fact that there is a very good chance that she won’t come to my bachelorette party, and I am not going to bend all of my plans just to cater to her schedule/boyfriend/etc. At this point I just hope she makes it to the rehearsal and wedding.
Post # 6
I’m sorry you’re going through that. I would tell her that the party is for adults only–you shouldn’t feel bad for that. It’s not like you’re demanding an extravagant rager of a bachelorette. I know it sounds easy to say from my end, but try not to worry about it too much, in my experience, each and every bachelorette party has been fun because of the people that were there, and not because of the people who changed their minds last minute.
Post # 7
I have two kids as well, so I know what it’s like finding childcare! Getting this weekend arranged was insane.
Anyway, I have no family in the area so that is a no go and she’s really picky about who watches her daughter (the child is 8) so it seems like that is a no go to. 🙁
Post # 8
can u help her get a babysitter?
Post # 9
This is such a toughy. There’s really nothing you can do. It’s your day. I’m sure she’ll understand if you tell her that it’s an adult affair. It’s your one night to drink, talk about sexy times, and indulge in being a Bachelorette.
Do it big!