- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So, as the Maid/Matron of Honor, I’m planning the Bachelorette Party for my best friend who is getting married early next year, and I just need to vent about the mess I’ve been dealing with trying to plan this out. I can’t understand why this seems to be the most difficult thing to plan.
We do bachelorette/bachelor parties as a weekend trip. The bride gave me a list of the girls to invite, so there are 8 total (including myself & the bride).
On AUGUST 4TH I made a Facebook event (I know all the girls, but I’m only close with 3 of them) and invited the 6 other girls. I left the bride out of the planning, so it will be a surprise. I told the girls that I had this idea, being that the bride LOVES Halloween, they have a bar crawl event downtown in a nearby big city. It is the day after Halloween. Basically you dress up in costume, bar hop, get free drinks and shots, and you have transportation. The link online said it started out at $20…but the link was for last year’s bar crawl and I told them I would let them know when this years registration opened. Everyone said that sounded great. We even planned a theme for all of us to be “zombie bridesmaids” and the bride is our “zombie bride” (this, and the bar crawl is being kept secret from the bride.)
Four of the girls have small kids/babies…so they will come that Saturday for the bar crawl, but not come Friday since that’s Halloween. So the other 4 of us, will be going there both nights. Not a big deal, so I started looking at hotel rooms.
On AUGUST 21st…I posted the hotel prices, per person, if everyone plans to go. I told them it would change if anyone dropped out, and we are covering the cost for the bride. I also told them that this was a “booked in advance discount” price and it would go up the closer we got to the event. Literally, it was like $48 for the girls staying one night and $96 for the girls staying both nights at a hotel IN the downtown area, within walking distance to every club downtown (so no cab fares). I told them I would book the room as soon as they all sent me the money for their part. All the girls said that sounded great…yet, I still had not received any money from them.
Between August 21st and now, I’ve sent a couple of reminders about this to them, and even had to up the price by like $7 each because we can no longer get the discount for booking in advance. I finally gave them a deadline of this Friday. Either you’re friggin going or not. Today the registration link was open for the bar crawl and early registration is $25 (this can be done on their own, online). Two of the girls I’m close with have money in hand. Another that I’m close with avoided my calls/texts all week last week and I finally saw her and was able to talk face-to-face, and her reply was “ok just let me know when you want the money.” (Um, I literally just told you I need it by Friday!)
One girl tells me “she’s not sure about how much money she’ll have, but she’ll make something work out.” I offered to pay this girl’s hotel cost up front and she can pay me back when we get there…she didn’t take me up on that offer…and then today she complains that the bar crawl is $25 instead of $20.
One girl I haven’t heard anything from, other than the initial convo where she said she was going. I’ve tried messaging her, and having the bride tell her to call me…and nothing. So I don’t even know if this chick is still going…which will end up raising the price for everyone.
The last girl is sending the check via the bride and has been very helpful in this whole process. She even found a $50 wedding dress that we can “zombie-up” for the bride to wear that night, and is making a zombie veil for her. She’s also offered to help with other things. Super cool chick.
What I don’t understand is:
If you KNEW about this party on AUGUST 4th, why would you not start putting aside money for it? I mean, I know how it is to be broke, or living paycheck to paycheck…and I certainly don’t have unlimited funds, but you have almost 2-3 months to save up $50. And if you can’t afford to go, then that’s understandable…but just SAY you can’t go…nobody will be mad that you can’t go!!
Why is it so freaking hard to plan these things with a group of girls? My Darling Husband planned a trip 7 hours away with 8 of his boys, and in one conversation they had the plans set, and a hotel booked within a week. UGHHH!!!