Post # 1
My maid of honor asked me what I’d like to do for a bachelorette.
originally I was thinking about having a bachelorette get away with just my bridal party. A girls weekend trip of some sort.
now I’m considering just having a party at a house near where we all live and inviting all my female friends invited to the wedding with crazy times and penis game nonsense.
im not sure which is best. I know my maid of honor is throwing me a “bridal shower” if that makes a difference.
which type did you have? What did you do to celebrate and is there anything you would have changed?
edit for clarity:
the getaway option is bridal party only (me+ my 4 best friends). They are all aware this is a potential plan and fine with the cost.
the party would probably be a larger crowd 15-20 girlfriends.
Post # 2
Its up to YOU really. The in town thing is the more affordable option, though I personally would leave out the penis nonsense. But thats just me.
Post # 3
Party is better because a getaway is so expensive for the guests!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
If anything is done we’d likely have a spa weekend in Sonoma vs. a typical bachelorette party. I second skipping the penis nonsense but it depends on your crowd. 🙂
Post # 5
sunflowers121 : I most likely wouldn’t attend an out of town bachelorette. The cost to attend a wedding is high enough without adding in an out of town party, unless you have access to a free cottage or cabin.
Post # 6
Have you or your Maid/Matron of Honor ask the BMs budget? The decision could also take that into account. See if they have max budget for bachelorette party, and go from there (if everyone can, then getaway; if some is having problem with money, then do party in town).
Post # 7
lleello : the bridal party is fine either way.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
sunflowers121 : Then go with whatever you prefer.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal
Personally if everyone is ok with the cost, I would do a weekend getaway. What are the chances of you going on vacation with just your best girlfriends in the future?
Post # 10
sunflowers121 : I’d prefer the larger crowd, which means having it locally. But that’s just my preference.
Post # 11
i did both. 2 weekend before my wedding, i had my bachelorette party with my gfs in town. we rented a hotel, had some predrinks then dinner, went to a strip club then dancing. when we got back to the hotel we stayed up and talk and had some more drinks. the next day after checking out of the hotel, we had some brunch.
then the weekend before my wedding, my Maid/Matron of Honor and I went to vegas for a few days 🙂
Post # 12
sunflowers121 : I would never feel comfortable with asking my bridal party to foot the bill for a weekend away so my preference would be for a home do with drinks and bachelorette games where I could contribute personally to drinks and food and help the bridal party with the burden of an added cost.
We tend to do it differently in Australia. The cost of the bachelorette/ hens day is calculated in advance and each guest pays the required amount if attending. We do things like a kitchen tea also. It is usually a two hour event hosted by the bridesmaids or brides mother. It is tea, coffee, champagne and finger foods with games and gifts. It is usually hosted at someones home and is a tame event you can invite your granny to.
Due to the way we tend to things at home my viewpoint is obviously skewed to what I considered the norm but I still think big expensive weekends away are an unfair financial burden to ask of my friends… I would also prefer personally that if I was asked to drop a huge amount of cash on a holiday that it was my choice and I was taking said holiday with hubby…
Post # 13
Feel it out with your girls! I originally was going to try to do something local but all my girls want to go on a getaway! I don’t want anyone paying a lot of money on my behalf, so we’ll figure out a place that works within all of our budgets.
Post # 14
I’d go with the big penis nonsense party. You can do a girl’s weekend with a few of you anytime, but this is probably your only chance to have your very own penis nonsense party. Also, I’d want to keep cost down for the BM’s. Being in a wedding is expensive enough. Though they’re willing to shell out the cash for the trip, if that’s what you want, I’m sure they’d appreciate saving money. Besides with the penis nonsense party you can celebrate with even more of your friends.
I had a short getaway in Atlantic city. It was nice. We stayed at one of the fanciest hotels in the area. We did spa treatments, had a nice dinner, and went to a burlesque show. That said, my BM’s spent a ton of money, and a few of them weren’t quite in a position to do so. I’m grateful for everything that they put into it, but I would have rathered a penis party with more of my friends, at a cheaper hotel, and barhopping with a trashy veil and “Bride” sash on.
Post # 15
chaibella : just the type of real experience and advice I was looking for. Thanks!!
anyone else care to share what they did and if they would have changed anything or preferred something else?