(Closed) Bachelorette party vs getaway

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
423 posts
Helper bee

Its up to YOU really. The in town thing is the more affordable option, though I personally would leave out the penis nonsense. But thats just me. 

Post # 3
7433 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Party is better because a getaway is so expensive for the guests!

Post # 4
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

If anything is done we’d likely have a spa weekend in Sonoma vs. a typical bachelorette party. I second skipping the penis nonsense but it depends on your crowd. 🙂 

Post # 5
47260 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sunflowers121 :  I most likely wouldn’t attend an out of town bachelorette. The cost to attend a wedding is high enough without adding in an out of town party, unless you have access to a free cottage or cabin.

Post # 6
724 posts
Busy bee

Have you or your Maid/Matron of Honor ask the BMs budget? The decision could also take that into account. See if they have max budget for bachelorette party, and go from there (if everyone can, then getaway; if some is having problem with money, then do party in town).

Post # 9
590 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

Personally if everyone is ok with the cost, I would do a weekend getaway. What are the chances of you going on vacation with just your best girlfriends in the future?

Post # 10
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sunflowers121 :  I’d prefer the larger crowd, which means having it locally. But that’s just my preference.

Post # 11
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

i did both. 2 weekend before my wedding, i had my bachelorette party with my gfs in town. we rented a hotel, had some predrinks then dinner, went to a strip club then dancing. when we got back to the hotel we stayed up and talk and had some more drinks. the next day after checking out of the hotel, we had some brunch.

then the weekend before my wedding, my Maid/Matron of Honor and I went to vegas for a few days 🙂

Post # 12
4533 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sunflowers121 :  I would never feel comfortable with asking my bridal party to foot the bill for a weekend away so my preference would be for a home do with drinks and bachelorette games where I could contribute personally to drinks and food and help the bridal party with the burden of an added cost.

We tend to do it differently in Australia. The cost of the bachelorette/ hens day is calculated in advance and each guest pays the required amount if attending. We do things like a kitchen tea also. It is usually a two hour event hosted by the bridesmaids or brides mother. It is tea, coffee, champagne and finger foods with games and gifts. It is usually hosted at someones home and is a tame event you can invite your granny to.

Due to the way we tend to things at home my viewpoint is obviously skewed to what I considered the  norm but I still think big expensive weekends away are an unfair financial burden to ask of my friends… I would also prefer personally that if I was asked to drop a huge amount of cash on a holiday that it was my choice and I was taking said holiday with hubby…

Post # 13
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Feel it out with your girls! I originally was going to try to do something local but all my girls want to go on a getaway! I don’t want anyone paying a lot of money on my behalf, so we’ll figure out a place that works within all of our budgets.

Post # 14
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’d go with the big penis nonsense party. You can do a girl’s weekend with a few of you anytime, but this is probably your only chance to have your very own penis nonsense party. Also, I’d want to keep cost down for the BM’s. Being in a wedding is expensive enough. Though they’re willing to shell out the cash for the trip, if that’s what you want, I’m sure they’d appreciate saving money. Besides with the penis nonsense party you can celebrate with even more of your friends. 

I had a short getaway in Atlantic city. It was nice. We stayed at one of the fanciest hotels in the area. We did spa treatments, had a nice dinner, and went to a burlesque show. That said, my BM’s spent a ton of money, and a few of them weren’t quite in a position to do so. I’m grateful for everything that they put into it, but I would have rathered a penis party with more of my friends, at a cheaper hotel, and barhopping with a trashy veil and “Bride” sash on. 

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