Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid and the bride wants to go on a weekend trip somewhere (Vegas or NYC). The maid of honor said that we were all to pay all of the brides’s expenses for the whole weekend (IE airfare, hotel, food all weekend and all activities). Although I understand the bridal party pays for a bachelorette “party,” how does that extend if you are spending an entire weekend for the “party?” Are you still supposed to pay for everywhere all weekend?
Post # 3
If this is a stretch for you financially, and it would be for me, just tell the Maid/Matron of Honor that you can’t afford to particpate in something this costly.
The Maid/Matron of Honor and the Bride need to be considerate of the cost when they plan these events.
Post # 4
If you’re feeling a pinch, perhaps others are as well and don’t want to say anything. Maybe suggest to the Maid/Matron of Honor you do something local instead. I don’t know why so many bachelorettes are out of town – mine is, but people would have to travel no matter where it was because most of my friends and bridesmaids are not local, and we’re going to a town where food and drinks are less expensive than where i live.
Post # 5
When I was Maid/Matron of Honor we did a wedding weekend and we paid for the bride’s whole weekend. But, we carpooled and I found a cheap cabin that we could split between us and we ate reasonably. And drank at the cabin so that was cheap. That being said I think it’s different for each person. I think it’s okay for them to ask, but it’s also okay for you to say no. Or some sort of compromise – maybe you can contribute to drinks and dinner on the biggest night of the bash and just cover yourself the rest of the time?
Post # 6
I’m having my bachelorette weeked on the beach, but it’s only a 4 hour car drive away. My bridesmaids are driving me over there and paying for the hotel, but I do not expect them to pay for my food or entertainment while I’m there. I wasn’t even expecting them to pay for the hotel, but they offered and it’s not an expensive place.