(Closed) Bachelorette party when you don’t have a lot of girlfriends?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My friends are also spread out all over the country.  I am planning on doing the shower/party a couple of nights before the wedding so everyone can be there and they don’t have to travel twice.  I am also hoping that it will encourage the girls to show up a few days early = more last minute help ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Fiance and I decided on a joint wine tour bachelor/bachelorette party w/party bus. It’s fun for everyone, then everyone comes back to our place for food and a bonfire. We’re all going to camp in the backyard too so nobody drinks and drives!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I didn’t want a b’ette party to begin with. But I also only have like one or two friends in the area so even if someone brough it up, I would have just said I didn’t want to have one, but thanks.

This is really up to you, though. Do you want a b’ette party? Just because your Fiance is having one doesn’t mean you have to. I tend to find bachelor and b’ette parties are kind of for everyone else but the bride and groom anyway ๐Ÿ™‚ Instead, you could always book a spa day just for yourself while your Fiance is away. Get a massage or mani/pedi, rent some girlie movies, get your fav snack and call it a “me” night.

If you want a party, e-mail your friends, near and far, and get a feeling for their likelihood of traveling for the party. You never know! Some girls are really into it, and you all could always make it a weekend thing, not just one day.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m also doing a girl’s night 2 nights before the wedding so that far flung friends/family will be able to attend.  If you want to do something well in advance, maybe do a spa evening with your 2 close friends (this way the pregnant one can join in too).

You don’t HAVE to meet up with your man. BUT if you WANT to meet up at the bar with your man and his friends, I say just do it.  Bring your 1 friend and any of the family members who would be fun to hang with.  It’s not always a bad thing to be outnumbered by men!  ๐Ÿ™‚  You & your girlfriend can certainly be the center of attention with the guys taking care of you! 

Conversely, if that makes you feel awkward, what about the guys who are attending the bachelor party?  Do they have wives/girlfriends who could join in the meet-up portion of the evening? 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t want a bachelorette party where you go out and party.  We’ve just had a slew of weddings and I attended all their parties/showers and I’m just not feeling it any more.  So I told my girls that I would rather have them spend the night with me the Friday before the wedding and the Saturday morning we get up have brunch and enjoy the morning being pampared.  I reserved the pimped-out suite at the hotel that has 3 bedrooms and living room with spa in the room.  I would normally not rent such a fancy place but I figure since we aren’t spending the money at a night club or on a limo/bus then why not spend it on a nice hotel room?!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Like Teddy Bears, my Fiance had his a couple days before the wedding since his friends were more spread out than mine.  That could be an option.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’m kind of in the same boat you are @Apple. Fiance has about 20 guy friends.. i on the other hand have about 3 close girlfriends/ BMs (one who lives in california and prob won’t fly in for my “bachelorette”), and my Future Sister-In-Law. I would want to all meet up at the end of the night with my Fiance and the guys but had the same reservations that you do because there will be about 4 of us.

But honestly, i think we will still go out / have dinner and meet up with them anyway! yep, my huge bachelorette party of 4.. maybe 5.! it will be CRAZY!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ Have fun with the girls you are with and don’t worry too much about the numbers Cool

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Appleblossom I think it is so cute your fiance wants to share this event with you. You can still have a lot of fun with just one or two friends! You could make a day out if it: get nails done or other spa/beauty treatment in the daytime, then go for a fun dinner with lots of girly drinks. Doesn’t have to be a big group; just treat yourself to something special you really love. Some people even invite their mom or other female relatives for that type of party. Your pregnant friend could totally go to all that. Then you and the other girlfriend that will be with you can go meet up with your fiance at the end. By that time it will probably be such a crazy party for the guys that it won’t matter if it’s just the two of you girl. Also you could tell the guys to have their own girlfriends/dates show up at the bar at a certain time.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I just had my bachelorette this past weekend.  There were 6 of us and it was really fun.  We went out for dinner and then dancing and all stayed at a hotel.  The next day, 4 of us went to disney world.  It works just fine with fewer people.

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