Post # 1
I’m nervous about bachelorette party plans! I would love to have a fun night out with girls – but I don’t drink alcohol. I don’t agree with it – just too many downsides for a small high it seems like to me. I don’t want to discourage anyone who finds it fun at my bachelorette party but I certainly don’t want to drink and I don’t want to play relay for my drunk girls.
What kind of fun can we have without going to bars and getting drunk? A night they can remember?
Post # 3
My party was pretty low key we still drank a little, but nothing to get anyone drunk. We actually started the evening off at my Maid/Matron of Honor house where I drank a glass of wine and opened a few gifts. We then went out to dinner at P.F. Changs, then headed to the movie theatre to see “The Five Year Engagement”. We then headed back to my Maid/Matron of Honor house and ate lots of candy and watched “Bridesmaids”. It was a perfect night for me and my girls. My party wasn’t too big, just 4 of us. But it was so laid back and we all had fun.
We were actually going to go play laser tag, but really wanted to eat candy instead lol!
Maybe you can go bowling/ putt putt, laser tag, or even do a Wine and Canvas where anyone who wants to enjoy a drink can, but you don’t feel obligated to drink.
Post # 4
We did a spa day and while we did sip wine the whole time, no one felt pressured to drink and no one got drunk. My BM’s set this up at a spa that is in a hotel (a Kimpton in Old Town Alexandria for anyone in the area but most cities have at least one hotel with a spa). The hotel gave us a “day use” suite which gave us the room from 9am-5pm and was cheaper than an overnight booking. The spa sent 4 nail techs up to the suite and they set up mani and pedi stations at various places in the room, and the BM’s set up a little spread of cheese, crackers and such. When everyone got to the spa, we split up, wiht some girls going up to the suite for mani/pedi and some going to the spa for treatments (massage, facial, whatever) and as your mani/pedi was finished you’d go take your turn at the spa, and so forth. It worked out REALLY well, and was a lot better than trying to find a spa that could take a group of 12 or 14 all at once.
After the spa visit some girls had other commitments and everyone else went to a really nice dinner in the neighborhood.
Post # 5
We are going to be at a hotel and we are having a pole dancing instructor there. Afterwards, the girls are doing a roast on me and we are going to be sipping on pink panties. I like a weak cocktail if that gives you any insight, nothing too strong.
Post # 6
My SIL does not really drink so we got a cabin in Big Bear for the weekend. Never went into town, just hung out in the cabin, went hiking, and enjoyed relaxing.
I think a few of us had wine, but no one got drunk or crazy. It was perfect for her and we all had a great time.
Maybe let your girls know you want relaxation and/or bonding not drinking to be the focus of the party.
Post # 7
If it’s your bachelorette party, don’t be afraid to voice your opinion for what you want/don’t want! I told all of my girls way in advance that I wasn’t wearing penis-covered anything or doing shots, and they respected that the day of the party because they wanted me to have a good time. Definitely let them know what you have in mind and I’m sure they will plan from there.
Post # 8
You don’t have to do a traditional party – it could be an activity organized around what you enjoy. When my friend turned 21, we had a big game/field day type thing for her because she didn’t want any alcohol there. Nontraditional but it was still really fun.
Post # 9
My Fiance and I are having a joint bach party. We’re planning on going to an arcade, laser tag, bowling alley, etc place called the Main Event. I’ve been once before, and it’s super fun!
Post # 10
I don’t really drink either, so I’m planning (well, telling my sister/MOH to plan) on going paintballing or something in the morning/early afternoon, go home for showers/lunch/movies/junk food, then possibly go out for dinner (or just have a night in with takeaway and movies/video games).
Post # 11
I don’t drink much now (in fact, for medical reasons right now, I can’t). While I didn’t have a bachelorette party for my second wedding, I did for my first. But it was just me and my two closest friends. We actually went to one of those pottery making places and we ended up picking out something that we could make together. It was an appetizer tray. We each took different sections of it to decorate and had a great time. I still remember it to this day, and I had something to remind me of the day that I could pull out anytime we had company over. It’s one of the few things I kept after my divorce because it still brings back such great memories.
Post # 12
I second the spa idea – nice compromise for everyone 🙂
Post # 13
Thanks very much for your feedback ladies!! My sister (MOH) and I talked it out with my FI’s best man. The guys are going trap shooting/paintballing in the morning/early afternoon while the girls go out on a spa day. Then we’ll all meet up at his best man’s house for a bbq supper and hanging out. Then we’ll go out dancing for those who would like to dance – and whoever wants to drink can drink but the majority of my bridesmaids know that I don’t like to drink and that I won’t be a babysitter on my bachelorette night. 🙂 I’ve got a little ways to work out the details and what not, but it’ll be a lot of fun!