Bachelorette Party Woes

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

statuesque1 :  “I said I wouldn’t be willing to participate”

Just to clarify, did you mean you wouldn’t be willing to go to the strip club but would still do everything else? Or that because there is now a strip club involved at the end you are no longer willing to have anything to do with the party at all?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am sure there is a reason that you are friends with this woman- someone who would mock/criticize you publicly.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Screw her.

Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would be bowing out of the whole wedding after the bride treated me like that. Talking shit about you with the other girls, forcing you to do something that’s out of your boundaries, not to mention making you plan the whole bach only to cancel it all at the last minute and do it herself. Nope! I’d be done.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Way too much drama for me. Exactly why are you still friends?

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

statuesque1 :  Ha! I see you were clarifying just as I was asking for that same exact clarification!

Anyway, I think that’s really shitty that she’s bad mouthing you in front of everyone (I’m assuming you’re also in these group texts?) like that. Some people aren’t comfortable with strip clubs and that’s perfectly fine! You were still going to participate in everything else, just not that part. I don’t really see how that makes her party any less special or fun. She’s being a brat. 

Have you told her that her remarks/comments are uncalled for and rude? 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

If it’s something that you aren’t okay with doing (completely understandable) and she KNEW that was how you felt why is she so upset?  It baffles me that people think you, as a bridesmaid, should just HAVE to go along with everything she asks.  You should be able to go to the part of it that you’re okay with and skip the strip club.  That’s not fair to ask someone who has been helping with the wedding to do something they are against.  And I agree with everyone about how horrible it is that she is talking about you negatively because of this … it’s petty!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I would ask her to meet for happy hour and hash it all out. See if she is willing to admit her wrongdoings, or just doubles down and continues to act like a petulant child. Then go from there.

On the strip club issue, I absolutely would not go if you don’t want to.

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