(Closed) Bachelorette Party Woes

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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statuesque1 :  you don’t need to confront her. Simply send her a text that you’ve had a group discussion about her behavior, which you have here, and the crowd sourced response was that she didn’t deserve you and you should step down.

due to overwhelming consensus that her behavior is unforgivable, you will not be in her wedding. 

done. 

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

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BalletParker :  This! A+!!

You deserve better from a friend, OP. I think you know what you should do, give yourself some time to process. Twenty five years is a long time. But once you’ve processed, move on. Life is too short to have “friends” like this.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Hmmm, makes you wonder if there was another reason to the other two bridesmaids bowing out. I would be done and I wouldn’t be attending the wedding either. Sounds like she’s gone bridezilla and honestly I think it will actually get worse as the day gets closer. If she keeps this up she won’t have anyone left in her wedding party and she’ll have deserved it.

 

add – the group text about behaviour is just awful. What a b*tch

Post # 36
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Busy bee

If you ask me, the length of the friendship is meaningless in this decision. The past doesn’t change the fact that she’s being horrible NOW. You don’t get to be shitty to a friend because you’ve got a bunch of good years “banked” with them. If someone pulled that crap with me, you’d better believe I’d consider the friendship over. You wouldn’t be the one ending the friendship, she already did that when she decided to have a separate group discussion about your behavior and then told you about it. Wtf.

Post # 37
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Sugar Beekeeper

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statuesque1 :  

Yes it is perfect.  Really ! I’d do  just exactly what  <u>BalletParker suggests </u>OP ,and  see   how she likes her  ‘behaviour’  being the subject of a group discussion. 

Years  ago  I was told by  small  group of frends that they had discussed my conservative ( for the time! ) sexual behaviour and come  to the conclusion it was due a  trauma of some years earlier. I still remember how unfuriated and betrayed I felt .   

 

Post # 38
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Honey Beekeeper

25 years notwithstanding, a true friend and a decent person would never behave this way. 

Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper

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statuesque1 :  

Thank you , that is kind . It was forever ago now, but remembering it made me empathise   with your position ! 

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If your friend was being reasonable you could certainly choose to attend all the events except the strip club. No way should she force you to go there! But she’s not being reasonable… a conversation with the other girls about your ‘behaviour’ is 13-year-old-bully territory. The fact that she told you about it means it is designed to humiliate you. If you don’t want to be a bridesmaid any more you are justified. 

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