Post # 1
So ladies, I need your help here! I need some general guidelines on how to help my Maid/Matron of Honor plan a party for me.
First off, how many people are you supposed to invite? My mom thinks she as well as my grandmothers are invited..I really don’t want them to come and i don’t want any hurt feelings. I thought bachelorette parties were for the bride and her closest friends. Need some help on that one!
Next–2 of my bridal party members are underage but I don’t want to exclude them. Another thing my mom mentioned was that bachelorette parties are only for those 21 and older. Is that true?I want to include my sister and Future Sister-In-Law because they are both super important to me even though they are underage.
I am the first of my circle of friends to get married and we (MOH and I) are pretty clueless! Please help!
Post # 3
I don’t think there are any particular rules to it.
I’d say if you have people under 21 that you’d want to include and older people that you wouldn’t want to go bar hopping with (or whatever you are doing for your Bachelorette Party) arrange to go out for dinner with everybody.
You can all eat and have fun and chat and then afterwards the group you’d like to party with can move on and the others can go home. It’s win-win and nobody should feel left out.
Post # 4
No rules, just whatever you like. Mine was drinks and dinner out, which the mums/mums’ friends were invited to. Then the rest of us went home for cocktails and Singstar. I think planning an event that consists of a few different things (e.g. afternoon tea followed by a night out, or whatever) so you can include everyone you want is a good way to make sure you have a good night.
Post # 5
The guest list is totally up to you- age shouldn’t matter. I agree with doing a two part party but in my opinion, it might seem rude to ask half of your party guests to go home after the meal.
Maybe have it a weekend thing, Friday night hang out with sisters, moms, grandmas and just have a fun girl night celebrating you, and then saturday night get crazy for a traditional bachelorette party. If you can find bars that allow underagers in but not drink that would be a good way to still allow the girls who aren’t of age but are important to you.
Post # 6
There are no rules…do whatever is fun for you!
My bachelorette party was just the girls from my bridal party, since they were my closest friends and future sister-in-law. We had a blast!
And who says you have to go out? If you’re looking for someway to include mothers/grandmothers or underage friends, stay in! You could have a fun pamper yourself girls night! One of my friends did this for her wedding…they had a Body Shop home party where we all gave ourselves pedicures and ate yummy food and just had some great girl time.
Post # 7
The bachelorette party doesn’t have to be for ages 21 and up. If you’re having a stereotypical bachelorette party, then girls under 21 might not be able to get into bars and wouldn’t be able to drink. But who says that is the kind of party you have to have?
If you don’t want your mom and other female relatives to come, they certainly don’t have to. If they really want to be involved, maybe they can take you and your girls to a separate dinner, on a separate night. But don’t be afraid to want a night with just your girls. That’s kind of the point of the party. 🙂
Good luck and don’t forget to have fun!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies for the tips! They are much appreciated!