(Closed) Bachelorette Party – Would you go?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

No I wouldn’t go. Especially if I was not invited to the wedding. Your friend probably wanted you to go but that would be very weird.

Post # 3
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You are under the correct impression. You shouldn’t be invited. Though a friend of my sister’s who I know but wasn’t invited to the wedding came to mine. But she asked if she could come.

Do you want to go?

Post # 4
7084 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Technically you shouldn’t be invited to any pre-wedding events if you’re not invited to the wedding, but as society evolves, a lot of the older etiquette rules are being bent a bit.  I don’t know that I would specifically take offense to being invited to the party, but I would find it really weird and I probably wouldn’t go, because the idea of spending 2 days partying with a bunch of people I barely know just isn’t appealing to me.

Post # 5
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

nope!<br />no wedding no bachelorette

Post # 8
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ryansgirl:  Then don’t go. Problem solved. Have fun at your friend’s bachelorette!

Post # 9
770 posts
Busy bee

That’s odd..I would not go to be honest. I am inviting friends that are not in the wedding party to go to my bachelorette party but would not ask someone who I am not inviting at all. 

Post # 11
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


Ryansgirl:  Maybe she’s hoping that if her friends don’t show up there will still be people there to help her celebrate… OR they are hoping for more monetary help with the festivites. Probably a crappy way to look at it but it’s weird that you’re invited.

Post # 12
2895 posts
Sugar bee

No. If this was the usual 1 evening / girls night out maybe I would go, but 2 days ? Why is this a thing ? And you’re not even invited to the wedding ? Unless you’re genuinely thrilled about this invitation, do not waste your money and time.

Post # 14
3907 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Ryansgirl:  I don’t know, on the one hand you WERE invited to go, but on the other hand, it’s kind of odd. I know that when I planned a bachelorette party for a friend a couple of years ago, one of the bridesmaids who planned it with me invited a couple of her friends who were not invited to the wedding. Why? The bride wanted to have a good time, but didn’t seem to have that many close female friends, so instead we surrounded her with ours and she had a blast. It wasn’t weird for those invited to not go to the wedding, but some of them did end up getting invited last minute. (I know, the whole thing sounds like a trainwreck.) 

I think that if you aren’t comfortable with it and you don’t want to go, you shouldn’t feel bad about it. It is a little bit of an odd request.

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