(Closed) Bachelorette Stress

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
57 posts
Worker bee

@Ms. Kitty:  Awww!  It sounds like they are really excited for you!!  If it were me, I’d kindly tell them that I’d prefer a dinner at a nice restaurant that’s local.  When one of them brings up the party, politely reinforce that that is not what your wishes are.  I’m sure they are just wanting to help you create a wonderful memory, but they also should respect your wishes.  Good luck!

Post # 4
9957 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ms. Kitty:   I would just relax and let it happen.  It’s very sweet and considerate of you to be concerned about your friends’ finances but if some pitch in to help cover for others, and they’re all ok with it, you shouldn’t stress too much.  It sounds as though these ladies really love you and want to make it special for you.  So, graciously accept their generosity and enjoy!

Post # 5
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ms. Kitty:  For some reason it feels like there is something about the whole thing that you don’t know if your one friend switched to the limo idea.  I would just mentioned your concerns to both of them, and thank them for being so generous for planning the whole thing.  That is awesome that they are so excited for you!

Post # 6
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Ms. Kitty:  I looooove the wineries out in Geneva/Madison/Thompson.. I’m in the Cleveland area too 🙂 If they’re willing to help cover what the other girls can’t, I’d let them do it. Also, if you know anyone that has one of those “All Around Town” coupon books, kinda like the Entertainment Book, there’s a coupon in there for 50% off All Occassion Limo which is based out of Mentor-on-the-Lake.. that could save a lot of money! The “All Around Town” is a local coupon book, it also has coupons for some of the wineries out there! If you go, be sure to stop at South River, that’s my fave 🙂

Post # 7
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would let it happen. This is a party for you that they are throwing, and if your friend is willing to pitch in to the other friends to help make this happen (which I think is unbelievably good hearted, sweet, kind, wonderful and all of that) then you need to let it happen.

They are doing a wonderful thing for you. The more you try to get them to change they may think you are ungrateful or picky. Your friends have this figured out. Just sit back, and Let it happen and it will be wonderful!

Post # 8
5842 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d let them plan it. At the end of the day it’s your friends responsibilities to make their own financial decisions. They sound really excited and you’ve already expressed your concerns about the event being too expensive.

Post # 9
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Awww, your girls sound so sweet! I would just let it happen. The other girl has already offered and is willing to pitch in for whoever can’t, and that is so kind of her!

Just enjoy your party and your amazing friends!!

Post # 10
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just had to say… I’m getting married the day before you and my bachelorette will also be a limo wine tour (but in Long Island).  I also was stressed about how much it would cost, but I decided to just let it go because I know my sister (MOH) planned with all the girls and all of them are the type to speak up if they can’t afford something.

Post # 11
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just relax and enjoy the nice day they are planning. Your friends are all adults and can decide for themselves if they can or can’t afford to attend.  Don’t make those decisions for them. If you have a generous friend who is offering to cover some or all of the limo, let her— but perhaps check around to see if there is a groupon or similar offer that can help control the costs. Limos are on groupon all the time (or living social, tippr, whatever, tons of discount sites out there).

Post # 12
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

In addition to what other posters said, since both girls offered assistance to other girls financially, I would have a private conversation with anyone you think might be struggling to afford it. Even something as casual as, “when they suggested it I thought it might be too expensive, but they told me if any girl needed help to cover the cost, they’d be totally willing,” that way other girls would know they could ask for help.

Post # 13
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So sweet!  I was having major anxiety about how much my girls could be spending on my bachelorette party (this weekend!) and they all just laughed at me and said “we want to do it!”  It’s not up to us to decide what they spend their money on…even if it’s us!

Post # 14
9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with PPs. You’ve done your part now let them handle it and enjoy whatever they come up with!

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