Post # 1
hey everyone, i could use a little help. ill try to make the backstory brief..
a good friend of mine is getting married and wants her bachelorette party to be a weekend (fri-sun). it will consist of staying 2nights in a hotel, going to a spa, outlets, dinner/bar and possibly a winery. we are going to a rather touristy spot but since we’d be going in winter (late feb), the prices are alot lower as the towns busy season is typically the summer. there will be between 5-7 girls in attendance and im about 95% sure the bride isn’t planning on contributing any money. another friend is putting everything together and is asking for peoples budgets and i dont know what to tell her..
i have already spent about 150 on my bridesmaid dress/some acessories that she is requiring us to have.. and will probably spend at least another 50 or so, maybe more.
im not really struggling financially (we are definitely not well off, but we are okay).. however since my fiance and i are paying for our own wedding this june and just found out we need to get a new vechicle, our money is streched a lot tighter than it usually is and fiance thinks we need to cut back a lot until after the wedding..
basically, what do you think i should set as my budget? any help/thoughts are appreicated!
Post # 3
@rachie576: “and wants her bachelorette party to be a weekend (fri-sun).”
…. and I want a pony for my birthday.
What she wants is not necessarily what she gets, especially if she is not contributing. The bachelorette party is a gift from the girlfriends to the bride. As with any gift, the recipient of the gift has no say in it, other than to offer suggestions and veto things which are unacceptable. So the bachelorette party should be what everyone is prepared to do, which is not necessarily a weekend away. You might also think about what you’re expecting for your bachelorette party.
Personally I think a bachelorette party budget should be less than $100 per person.
Post # 4
i put up to 150, but realistically, are you going to be able to do all that stuff for that little?
Post # 5
@paula1248: your comment made me laugh! i dont know for sure if she’s not contributing, but i do know that its most likely going to be a fri-sun since one girl wanted to plan it and the other two bridesmaids really dont want to plan and will go along with whatever.. for mine, i dont want to do anything but maybe a nice dinner and some drinks.
@li612: i was worried too about how much all of that stuff would cost, but apparently we can do most of it, for a “decent price based on budgets” according to the planner friend, not sure what that means exactly lol… from what i understand from the planner there are some nice but not overpriced hotels, and the nearby spas have some specials that we could do. i guess her question is how much are we all willing to spend, to know where to book/do stuff..
thank you both for your input!
Post # 7
I would just be honest, even if it’s not the number she wants to hear. At least she is asking instead of planning it w/o input. Definitely speak up since you are getting the chance. I think weekend parties can be a little excessive and they always end up being expensive, especially if you have to pay for the bride. The activities, hotel, food and drink can really add up. I would not want to spend more than $100- $150 personally.